Isaiah 4:1 And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.
In the passage, Israel was under the judgment of God and many men were killed. This caused economic chaos as well as a lack of men. Thus the desperation of initiating polygamy by the women. Being single was not desired or honored. Women desired children. They were willing to provide material needs for themselves, but they needed the social standing as a wife and mother.
Due to the shortage of men seeking marriage there are quite a few “left over women” in China and elsewhere. There are women over 25 with no husband or children. There are roughly 128 million of them in China with Japan and South Korea also having a large amount of unmarried women. I have seen where two Chinese women were asking to be the wives of a man as well as three Chinese sisters offering themselves as a set. There was a game show where nine women were competing for one man, somewhat like the Bachelor TV show here. One of the “leftover women” from that show gets to be on the Bachelorette show. Another video with two sisters said they could not be separated and were looking for one man to love them both.
Women are foregoing the need for a dowry and have offered a dowry or a car or house to the man. Of course, some have aggrandized personas with one demanding a million dollar dowry, but most are desperate asking for a low or no dowry.
In the Western world radical feminism has created women who do not want to be traditional wives and yet they want traditional men. Indeed, very few women want anything to do with traditional marriage roles. They have created a list of delusional demands for men that maybe.001% of men could fulfill, but that small percentage of men would not find these ladies desirable for marriage. They would be seen as potential flings and nothing more. One very obese lady said her biggest ick about men was if they did not work out. A bit of a double standard there.
Women have said that 80% of men are ugly and the actual average salary of $70K is inadequate as a salary of $200-500K per year is acceptable with the dream being $200K per month. While some of the ladies did have high salaries, most do not make the average of $70K so why does the man need so much income? A very large, loud, and obnoxious woman said her man had to make at least $500K. Even if she got in shape, her attitude and tone would keep her single.
This has created an atmosphere where most men 18-25 are not dating and are not seeing the value of marriage as women only see them as a wallet. Most divorces are initiated by women. 90% if they are college educated. They take half of the men’s assets and deny access to any children while demanding child support. With a 50% divorce rate men are seeing marriage as a high risk, low yield investment. Sadly, the divorce rate of Christians is also 50%
Older men are looking for younger women who have less baggage and are still fertile. Women who waited until they got their career goals are finding dating at thirty to fifty years old is virtually impossible especially if they kept the same standards they had when they were in their twenties. Fifty and above is like trying to find a unicorn. Even Christian women have been infected by radical Feminism in a time when fewer men are attending church so their options are even more limited.
Long ago, I found that most good men are married by forty and then they start having MIs or in some other way start dying off. Men at forty who have never been married usually have no interest in marriage for whatever reason. Over forty, you have the chronic unemployed or underemployed, the addict/alcoholic, multiple divorces, former inmates, mentally ill and gay men. This makes a very small dating market.
Each divorce puts another woman in a shrinking pool of men. Indeed, one study I saw said single women are now targeting married men with good jobs that might be unhappy in their marriage. If not, the seeker may be able to make him think he is unhappy and then throw in some sex hoping he will divorce his wife and marry them. That probably works far more often than we would like to think. Men, be aware and ladies if you want him make yourself the woman he would rather die for than leave.
Indeed, women are very transactional and there is so much talk about who brings what to the table. It is more a business transaction and merger of assets without little to no thoughts of love and life long commitments. More men are seeking prenuptial agreements. Women are not willing to be in a situation to share their assets in the relationships. There is no 50-50 in their minds. The man is to provide 100% and they keep their money. They would rather struggle paying 100% and complain about the hardship.
In my day, men and women built together. My wife and I did not see it as her money and my money. It was our money used to provide for the family and we both had different roles. I was the primary provider, but when the kids were in school all day my wife also worked to meet the financial needs. She assumed the traditional role of the wife as guardian of the home and primary nurturer of the children. She also controlled the assets as she was better at that than I was. I was raised by a widow and had no instruction on how to handle money. She was a money manager from birth even denying loans to her brother and had her gift money far longer than most people. If she ran the national budget we would be out of debt with massive amounts of cash in the treasury.
It is estimated that by 2030 some 45% of women under thirty-five will be single living with cats. Many over 35 are already single without children and having at least one cat. Banks are investing in cat related items because of the statistics. Men are looking at humanoid robots as companions as they are in the long run cheaper than women with no drama. That will create a situation that normally only occurs after a lengthy epidemic or a prolonged war. There will be a missing generation because few children will be born. If every fertile woman were to have a child in the next ten years we would have something like the baby boom after WWII. Indeed, radical feminism has created an all out, take no prisoners war between the sexes.
The mentality of the world should not be the mentality of Christians. Even tough the Proverbs 31 woman had a cottage industry and bought real estate she still cared for her family and lived a life that made her husband known in the city. The Scripture says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and the lady in Proverbs was a treasure. Scripture also speaks of the woman who the man is better off to live in a small space alone rather than a large home with her. A contentious woman is like a leak on a rainy day. From the videos I have seen, it appears that many modern women are more like a the force of a burst dam than a constant dripping.
Bottom line is that life is hard and it is harder alone.
Ecc_4:12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Unless we get back to what it means to be married, we will see nothing good of this so called empowerment that makes women bitter and angry and men not trusting women because they feel like all they want is a wallet or someone to do the hard stuff in life while the ladies live the soft life.
Jer_6:16 Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. But they said, We will not walk therein.
Unless we repent and seek the old paths, we will continue to spiral into the oblivion satan and his fleshly minions desire for mankind. Polygamy, polyandry, or polyamory is not the answer. We have seen these things in Scripture and it never worked well as it was against His design.
Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife and they shall be one flesh.
It is better to find love than money. True love can build what lasts. Transactional marriage only ends us destroying what has been built. The best marriage is where his strengths are her weaknesses and her strengths are his weaknesses making them stronger together than they would ever be apart.
I would suggest that you not seek out a rich 10 as there are so few of them. Find a 5 that will love you unto death will you part. That is better for the spouses and their kids. A marriage not built on love and commitment is only a business partnership with sex as a fringe benefit and businesses fail. Love survives tough times while contracts are broken when things go bad. Indeed, “what’s love got to do with it?” Everything! Two lovers committed to each other and to God will find strength to weather many storms by the love and grace of God.
It is time to return to the old paths of marriage and romance. High body counts only hinder and often destroy the ability to pair bond. One divorce only makes the next three easier. Transactions sour, but love endures. Look for love in all the right places and find what you are missing. Maranatha!
