THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN
By Rev. Samuel Arimoro
Main Text: Proverbs 31:10 (KJV)
"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."
Supporting Texts: 1 Peter 3:3-4, Titus 2:3-5, Ephesians 5:33, Proverbs 12:4, Matthew 6:33
INTRODUCTION:
Proverbs 31 offers a timeless portrait of the virtuous woman, a model of wisdom, strength, and grace. This woman is not defined by external beauty or worldly achievements, but by her fear of the Lord and her unwavering commitment to her family and community. As we look at this chapter, we see that the virtuous woman is someone who exudes character, diligence, and selflessness. Her life is a reflection of godliness, and her worth is immeasurable. In our modern world, where the definition of beauty often revolves around superficial standards, Proverbs 31 provides a more profound and lasting definition of true worth.
The woman described in Proverbs 31 is not an unattainable ideal but a model to be aspired to. She is hardworking, wise, compassionate, and her actions reflect a heart that loves the Lord. This chapter speaks to women of all ages, calling them to embrace godly virtues in every area of life. For men, it provides a guide to recognize and appreciate these virtues in the women around them. The virtuous woman is not just a personal example but a gift to her family, church, and society at large.
In this sermon, we will examine the characteristics of the virtuous woman as outlined in Proverbs 31, drawing out the principles that every woman—and indeed every believer—can live by. It is important to note that this passage also speaks to men, teaching them how to value and respect the women in their lives. Let us learn from the wisdom in these verses and seek to embody the qualities of a virtuous woman, or support and encourage those who do.
1. A VIRTUOUS WOMAN FEARS THE LORD
a) Reverence and Awe for God.
The foundation of a virtuous woman is her reverence for God. She acknowledges Him as the source of her strength and wisdom. Her fear of the Lord shapes her decisions and actions, leading her to live a life that is pleasing to Him.
b) The Fear of the Lord is the Beginning of Wisdom.
Proverbs 31:30 highlights that charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. This reverence leads her to make wise choices in her personal life, marriage, and her community.
c) Strength Derived from God’s Grace.
The virtuous woman knows that her strength does not come from her own abilities but from God’s grace. She relies on Him for guidance and sustenance, trusting in His faithfulness.
d) Worship and Devotion Guide Her Actions.
Her relationship with God shapes her character and leads her to be a woman of integrity and compassion. She makes prayer and worship a priority in her life.
Biblical Example: Deborah, the judge of Israel, exemplified the fear of the Lord as she led the people in a time of crisis (Judges 4:4-9).
2. A VIRTUOUS WOMAN IS HARDWORKING AND DILIGENT
a) She Works with Her Hands.
Proverbs 31:13-19 speaks of a woman who is industrious, using her talents and resources to bless her family and community. She is not idle but actively seeks to provide and serve.
b) She Provides for Her Family.
The virtuous woman ensures that her household is well-cared for, both spiritually and materially. Her diligence is evident in how she manages her home, providing for her family’s needs with wisdom and efficiency.
c) Her Work is a Testimony of Her Character.
The way she approaches her work reflects her inner character. Whether she is caring for her family or managing her business affairs, she does everything with excellence and integrity.
d) She Balances Work and Rest.
While she is hardworking, she also knows the importance of rest and spiritual renewal. She understands that balance is key to sustaining her energy and focus.
Biblical Example: The Proverbs 31 woman is likened to a merchant's ship, bringing her food from afar (Proverbs 31:14). Her business acumen and determination mirror the success of a woman who builds and strengthens her family.
3. A VIRTUOUS WOMAN IS KIND AND COMPASSIONATE
a) She Shows Mercy to the Poor.
Proverbs 31:20 describes how the virtuous woman extends her hand to the poor, showing compassion to those in need. She understands that true beauty comes from giving, not receiving.
b) She is Generous in Spirit.
Her generosity is not just in material things but also in her time, love, and care. She serves others selflessly, demonstrating the love of Christ in all her actions.
c) She Speaks with Wisdom.
Proverbs 31:26 tells us that she opens her mouth with wisdom and teaches kindness. She uses her words to encourage, uplift, and guide others.
d) She Is a Source of Strength and Encouragement.
Her presence brings peace and strength to those around her. Whether as a mother, wife, friend, or leader, she provides a calming and supportive influence.
Biblical Example: The Good Samaritan (Luke 10:30-37) exemplifies kindness and compassion, going out of his way to help someone in need, regardless of inconvenience or cost.
4. A VIRTUOUS WOMAN BUILDS AND MANAGES HER HOME
a) She Is a Keeper of Her Household.
Proverbs 31:27 says that the virtuous woman watches over the ways of her household. She manages the home with wisdom, making sure that everything runs smoothly.
b) Her Family Is Her Priority.
Her greatest investment is in her family, ensuring that her children and husband are well cared for. She understands the importance of nurturing relationships and creating a loving, supportive home environment.
c) She is a Teacher and Guide.
She teaches her children the ways of the Lord, ensuring that they grow up with wisdom and integrity. Her leadership in the home reflects the love and guidance of God.
d) She Creates a Godly Legacy
The virtuous woman leaves behind a legacy of faith and righteousness that impacts generations to come. Her home is a reflection of God’s grace and truth.
Biblical Example: Hannah, the mother of Samuel, exemplifies this quality. She was a devoted mother who dedicated her son to the Lord’s service, shaping his future (1 Samuel 1:27-28).
5. A VIRTUOUS WOMAN IS HONORED AND PRAISED
a) Her Work is Recognized.
The Proverbs 31 woman is worthy of honor, and her deeds are publicly acknowledged. She is not in pursuit of praise, but her efforts are noticed and celebrated.
b) She Is a Blessing to Her Husband and Children.
Proverbs 31:28-29 speaks of her children and husband rising up and calling her blessed. Her virtuous character makes her a treasure to her family, and they express their gratitude for her.
c) Her Strength is a Testimony.
The strength and wisdom of the virtuous woman are evident in how she handles challenges, and this strength becomes a testimony to others.
d) She Is an Example for Others to Follow.
Her life becomes an example for other women to emulate. Her dedication, kindness, and godliness inspire those around her to live a life that honors God.
Biblical Example: Mary, the mother of Jesus, exemplifies a woman of grace and honor. She was blessed and highly favored by God, and her life continues to inspire women around the world (Luke 1:48).
CONCLUSION:
The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 is a model of godly character, wisdom, and strength. She teaches us that true beauty lies not in outward appearance but in the heart—a heart that fears the Lord, works diligently, and cares for those around her. Whether as a mother, wife, daughter, or friend, the qualities described in Proverbs 31 are ones we should all strive to embody. As we seek to live lives that reflect God’s love and wisdom, we will be a blessing to our families, churches, and communities.
Let us honor and appreciate the virtuous women in our lives. They are treasures far beyond rubies, and their value cannot be measured by the world’s standards. May we all aspire to live lives that reflect the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman, bringing glory to God in all that we do.
PRAYER POINTS
1. Lord, help me to fear You above all else and live a life that pleases You.
2. Father, give me the strength and wisdom to work diligently in all that I do.
3. I pray for the spirit of kindness and compassion to fill my heart and guide my actions.
4. Lord, empower me to be a faithful steward of my household and a godly influence on my family.
5. I declare that my family shall be blessed and flourish in every area of life, reflecting Your glory.
