COMMUNICATION
By Rev. Samuel Arimoro
Main Text: Proverbs 18:21 – “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”
Supporting Texts: James 3:1-12, Ephesians 4:29, Colossians 4:6, Matthew 12:36-37
INTRODUCTION:
Communication is one of the most powerful tools given to mankind. Through communication, relationships are built, ideas are conveyed, and destinies are shaped. However, the same instrument can also destroy relationships, scatter visions, and wreck lives if used wrongly. The Bible is filled with countless references to the power of words, showing us that communication is not just a social skill but a spiritual one.
In our walk with God and with others, effective communication is essential. Whether it’s in marriage, ministry, workplace, or friendships, how we speak and what we say can determine whether we create peace or stir up strife. Jesus Himself warned us that every idle word will be accounted for on the day of judgment. This shows us that heaven pays attention to how we speak.
This study seeks to examine the biblical principles of godly communication, the dangers of careless talk, and how we can use our words to glorify God and edify others. The aim is that by the end of this message, we would all strive to be intentional, edifying, and Spirit-led in our daily conversations.
1. THE POWER OF WORDS
Our words carry creative and destructive power, and as believers, we must use them with caution and intention.
a) Words Have Consequences
Proverbs 18:21 reveals that life and death are in the tongue. Words can build or destroy, encourage or discourage.
b) God Created with Words
In Genesis 1, God spoke creation into existence, showing us that speech is a divine tool for bringing things to life.
c) Words Reflect the Heart
Matthew 12:34 teaches that out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. Our speech reveals our spiritual state.
d) Words Influence Outcomes
Numbers 13:31-33 shows how the negative report of the spies discouraged Israel, while Caleb's positive speech brought faith.
Biblical Example: Jesus speaking life to Lazarus in John 11 demonstrates the power of spoken words over death and decay.
2. COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS
Godly communication is vital for sustaining love, understanding, and unity in any relationship.
a) Speak with Grace
Colossians 4:6 instructs us to let our speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt. Words should heal, not hurt.
b) Listen Actively
James 1:19 encourages us to be swift to hear and slow to speak. Good communication starts with listening.
c) Avoid Harsh Words
Proverbs 15:1 teaches that a soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.
d) Clarify, Don’t Assume
Misunderstandings grow when assumptions replace clarity. Effective communication requires asking and explaining.
Biblical Example: Abigail in 1 Samuel 25 used wise and gentle communication to prevent David from shedding innocent blood.
3. COMMUNICATION WITH GOD (PRAYER)
Our spiritual strength and direction depend on effective communication with our Father through prayer.
a) Prayer is Dialogue, Not Monologue
Jeremiah 33:3 shows that God not only hears but responds when we call on Him.
b) Be Honest with God
Psalm 62:8 tells us to pour out our hearts before Him. He desires sincerity, not performance.
c) Use the Word in Prayer
Praying God’s Word (as in Isaiah 55:11) aligns our hearts with His promises and purposes.
d) Listen for God’s Voice
Isaiah 30:21 reminds us that God speaks and directs those who are listening.
Biblical Example: Hannah in 1 Samuel 1 prayed from her heart, and God responded by giving her Samuel.
4. AVOIDING CORRUPT COMMUNICATION
Believers are called to separate from words and jokes that do not glorify God.
a) Guard Your Tongue
James 3:6 warns that the tongue can defile the whole body and must be bridled.
b) Avoid Gossip and Slander
Proverbs 16:28 says a whisperer separates close friends. Gossip is a tool of division.
c) Speak What Edifies
Ephesians 4:29 calls us to only say what builds others up. Criticism without love tears down.
d) Don’t Join in Corrupt Talk
1 Corinthians 15:33 warns that evil communication corrupts good manners.
Biblical Example: Ananias and Sapphira lied with their words and lost their lives (Acts 5:1-11).
5. COMMUNICATION FOR EVANGELISM
The gospel is spread through the power of speech and testimony.
a) Boldly Declare Christ
Romans 1:16 urges us not to be ashamed of the gospel; our words can lead others to salvation.
b) Share Your Testimony
Revelation 12:11 shows that we overcome by the word of our testimony and the blood of the Lamb.
c) Speak Truth in Love
Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to share truth, but wrapped in love.
d) Be Ready to Answer
1 Peter 3:15 tells us to be ready to give a reason for our hope, with gentleness and respect.
Biblical Example: The Samaritan woman in John 4 ran to tell others about Jesus, and many believed through her words.
CONCLUSION:
Communication is a sacred gift from God that must be handled with care and reverence. As believers, our words must reflect the character of Christ – full of grace, truth, and love. Whether we are speaking to God in prayer, engaging with others, or sharing the gospel, our communication should glorify God and uplift those who hear us.
We are accountable for every word we speak. Let us yield our tongues to the Holy Spirit so that our words may bring life, healing, and hope to our world. As we grow in our walk with God, may our communication reflect the purity of our hearts and the wisdom of heaven.
PRAYER POINTS:
1. Lord, purify my heart so my words will glorify You.
2. Father, give me wisdom to speak with grace and truth.
3. Holy Spirit, help me avoid words that wound or destroy.
4. Lord, use my mouth as a tool for evangelism and encouragement.
5. I break every curse released through careless words over my life.
