As the saying goes, "every couple needs to argue now and then, just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive." But is this notion supported by biblical teachings? In this sermon, we will explore the concept of conflict in relationships through the lens of Scripture, examining the purposes and benefits of arguing in a biblical context.
The Inevitability of Conflict
The Bible acknowledges that conflict is an inherent part of human relationships. In Matthew 18:7, Jesus says, "Woe to the world because of the things that cause people to stumble! Such things must come, but woe to the person through whom they come." This verse recognizes that disagreements and conflicts will arise, even in the closest of relationships.
The Purpose of Conflict
So, why does God allow conflict in relationships? Proverbs 27:17 provides insight, stating, "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." Conflict can serve as a refining fire, testing and strengthening our relationships. Through disagreements, we can:
Grow in humility: Recognizing our own flaws and weaknesses, we become more humble and receptive to feedback.
Develop effective communication: Conflict forces us to communicate more effectively, listening to each other's perspectives and working towards understanding.
Deepen empathy and understanding: By navigating disagreements, we gain a deeper understanding of our partner's thoughts, feelings, and needs.
Biblical Examples of Constructive Conflict
The Bible provides several examples of constructive conflict in relationships. For instance:
Abraham and Sarah: In Genesis 16, Abraham and Sarah disagree about Hagar, Sarah's servant. Although their conflict leads to tension, it ultimately results in a deeper understanding of God's plan and a stronger relationship.
Paul and Barnabas: In Acts 15:36-41, Paul and Barnabas disagree about taking John Mark on their missionary journey. Their conflict leads to a separation, but ultimately, both parties continue to serve God, and their relationship is not irreparably damaged.
Resolving Conflict in a Biblical Manner
So, how can we resolve conflicts in a way that honors God and strengthens our relationships? Ephesians 4:29-32 provides guidance:
Speak the truth in love: Address conflicts with honesty and kindness, avoiding hurtful or destructive words.
Forgive and let go: Release grudges and resentments, choosing to forgive and move forward.
Seek reconciliation: Work towards resolving conflicts, rather than allowing them to simmer and damage the relationship.
Conclusion
In conclusion, arguing in relationships is not only inevitable but can also be a refining fire that strengthens our bonds with others. By embracing conflict as an opportunity for growth, deepening our communication and empathy, and resolving disagreements in a biblical manner, we can build stronger, more resilient relationships that honor God. As 1 Corinthians 13:7 reminds us, "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
