Title: HOLINESS IN RELATIONSHIPS
By Rev. Samuel Arimoro
Main Text: 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Supporting Texts: Amos 3:3, 1 Corinthians 15:33, Matthew 5:16, Proverbs 13:20, Ephesians 5:1-3
INTRODUCTION:
Relationships play a vital role in our lives, shaping our character, values, and destiny. As believers, God calls us to live in holiness, which extends to our associations and partnerships. Holiness in relationships ensures that we remain set apart for God, maintaining purity, righteousness, and spiritual growth. This study examines how to uphold holiness in various relationships, with practical insights and biblical examples.
1. THE CALL TO SEPARATION
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers" (2 Corinthians 6:14).
a) Definition of Unequal Yoking
Unequal yoking refers to forming close bonds with those who do not share our faith.
b) Spiritual Incompatibility
Light and darkness cannot coexist (1 John 1:5-7).
c) God’s Command for Separation
God calls His people to be distinct in their conduct and associations (Leviticus 20:26).
d) Consequences of Unequal Yoking
Such relationships can hinder spiritual growth and lead to compromise (1 Kings 11:1-4).
e) Biblical Example:
Samson’s downfall was linked to his unequally yoked relationship with Delilah (Judges 16:4-21).
2. MAINTAINING HOLINESS IN FRIENDSHIPS
"Do not be deceived: 'Bad company corrupts good character'" (1 Corinthians 15:33).
a) Choosing Godly Friends
Surround yourself with those who encourage spiritual growth (Proverbs 27:17).
b) Avoiding Toxic Influences
Stay away from friendships that lead to sin (Psalm 1:1).
c) Being a Godly Influence
Shine as a light in your friendships (Matthew 5:16).
d) Setting Boundaries
Establish clear spiritual boundaries to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23).
e) Biblical Example:
Jonathan and David’s friendship was rooted in mutual faith and godly values (1 Samuel 18:1-4).
3. HOLINESS IN MARRIAGE AND ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
"Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure" (Hebrews 13:4).
a) Marrying in the Lord
Seek a partner who shares your faith (1 Corinthians 7:39).
b) Maintaining Purity
Avoid sexual immorality and honour God with your body (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
c) Cultivating God-Centred Love
Reflect Christ’s love in your relationship (Ephesians 5:25-27).
d) Praying Together
Strengthen your relationship through prayer and devotion (Matthew 18:19-20).
e) Biblical Example:
Priscilla and Aquila exemplified a godly marriage and partnership in ministry (Acts 18:1-3, 26).
4. HOLINESS IN FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
"As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord" (Joshua 24:15).
a) Parents’ Role
Teach and model godliness to your children (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).
b) Children’s Role
Honour and obey your parents as unto the Lord (Ephesians 6:1-3).
c) Resolving Conflicts Biblically
Approach family disagreements with grace and forgiveness (Colossians 3:13).
d) Building a Christ-Centred Home
Make God the foundation of your family life (Psalm 127:1).
e) Biblical Example:
Timothy’s faith was influenced by his godly mother and grandmother (2 Timothy 1:5).
5. HOLINESS IN WORK AND MINISTRY RELATIONSHIPS
"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord" (Colossians 3:23).
a) Integrity at Work
Uphold honesty and excellence in all tasks (Proverbs 11:3).
b) Avoiding Compromise
Refuse to partake in unethical practices (Daniel 6:10).
c) Being a Witness for Christ
Let your conduct draw others to Christ (Philippians 2:15-16).
d) Unity in Ministry
Work harmoniously with fellow believers for the kingdom (Ephesians 4:3).
e) Biblical Example:
Paul and Barnabas demonstrated effective ministry partnership despite challenges (Acts 13:2-3).
CONCLUSION:
God calls us to live holy lives in all our relationships. By maintaining spiritual boundaries, seeking godly associations, and shining as lights in a dark world, we honour Him. Let us commit to walking in holiness in every aspect of our relationships, relying on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength.
PRAYER POINTS:
1. Lord, help me to maintain holiness in all my relationships.
2. Father, grant me the wisdom to choose godly companions.
3. Holy Spirit, empower me to be a godly influence on others.
4. Lord, protect my heart from the snare of unequal yoking.
5. Father, guide me in building a Christ-centred family.
6. Lord, strengthen my marriage/relationship with Your love.
7. Father, help me to be a light in my workplace and community.
8. Lord, fill my home with Your presence and peace.
9. Father, grant me discernment to avoid toxic influences.
10. Lord, may my relationships bring glory to Your name.
