Summary: Follow these traits and be careful and discern before you marry.

1. _Lack of Peace_: You feel a persistent lack of peace or unease about the relationship. (Colossians 3:15)

2. _No Confirmation_: You do not receive confirmation from God through prayer, fasting, or seeking counsel. (Romans 8:14)

3. _Red Flags_: You notice red flags, such as a history of abuse, addiction, or infidelity. (Proverbs 22:3)

4. _Different Values_: You and your partner have fundamentally different values or beliefs. (Amos 3:3)

5. _No Shared Vision_: You and your partner do not share a common vision or goals for your life together. (Proverbs 29:18)

6. _Emotional Unavailability_: Your partner is emotionally unavailable or unresponsive to your needs. (Ephesians 5:25-33)

7. _Lack of Respect_: Your partner does not demonstrate respect for you, your boundaries, or your feelings. (Ephesians 5:33)

8. _Dishonesty_: Your partner is dishonest or untrustworthy in their words or actions. (Proverbs 12:17)

9. _Unwillingness to Grow_: Your partner is unwilling to grow, learn, or change, and may even resist your efforts to help them. (Proverbs 9:9)

10. _Disconnection from God_: Your partner is disconnected from God or does not prioritize their spiritual growth. (Matthew 6:33)

11. _No Fruit of the Spirit_: Your partner does not demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit, such as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22-23)

12. _Unhealthy Communication_: Your partner engages in unhealthy communication patterns, such as criticism, blame, or defensiveness. (Ephesians 4:29-31)

13. _Lack of Accountability_: Your partner is not accountable to anyone, including friends, family, or a spiritual leader. (Proverbs 27:17)

14. _Unwillingness to Forgive_: Your partner is unwilling to forgive or let go of past hurts or resentments. (Matthew 6:14-15)

15. _Disrespect for Boundaries_: Your partner disrespects your boundaries or expects you to compromise your values or beliefs. (Proverbs 23:4-5)

16. _Lack of Emotional Intelligence_: Your partner lacks emotional intelligence, including self-awareness, self-regulation, and empathy. (Proverbs 29:11)

17. _Unhealthy Attachments_: Your partner has unhealthy attachments or addictions, such as substance abuse or codependency. (1 Corinthians 6:12)

18. _No Desire for Spiritual Growth_: Your partner does not desire spiritual growth or is not interested in deepening their relationship with God. (Matthew 6:33)

19. _Lack of Gratitude_: Your partner lacks gratitude or appreciation for the blessings and gifts in their life. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

20. _No Sense of Responsibility_: Your partner does not take responsibility for their actions or decisions, and may even blame others or make excuses. (Proverbs 28:13)

If you identify with several of these signs, it may be wise to reevaluate the relationship and seek guidance from God and trusted spiritual leaders.