Proverbs 11:22 As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.
Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. :28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Being retired military, when I hear body count I am thinking the aftermath of a battle and the total of the slain. I have been watching videos where women are very open about the number of men they have slept with, but are frustrated that men get upset over a high body count. They do not know why men do not welcome her into a relationship because she has experience and skills. They ask why a man would want a virgin, which is almost as rare as finding a leprechaun, when they can have a skilled lover.
Many of them have Only Fans accounts where they offer varying shades of pornography and some said that they “hook up” with subscribers. I think one had a contest where the winner spent a night with her. They do nor understand why a man would not want a relationship with them or ask them to stop earning money in that way. Indeed, one lady bragged about a body count of 360.
All of these ladies are looking for men in the upper 1% income bracket and over six feet tall, which is another small group of men. They do not consider themselves “run through” and all think they are 10’s and a prize. Some have a good guy on the line and yet have sex with multiple men with one lady saying six was her high day. While they would do all these one night stands they said they kept the good guy waiting for sex. I am not seeing the prize.
In my Mom’s generation, these ladies would not have been called nice things. Indeed, the wives in the neighborhood would have shunned them and found ways to encourage them to leave the neighborhood. In my generation of the sexual revolution and free love these gals would still have been ostracized by many. Many guys might be comfortable with a woman not being a virgin and maybe even a body count of four because they were young and dumb, but few would find these gals attractive.
I have thought about this and here would be my analogy for these girls hoping they would understand. If I walked into a car dealership looking to buy the latest model year and the salesperson took me to one that has 80,000 miles on it, I would ask him if he was mentally ill or joking. If he explained that those miles were only from people test driving the car, I would wonder why so many people drove it and none bought it. Consequently, a person might test drive it, but would buy one that only had no mileage or no more than 10 miles. At 80,000 miles the warranty is either gone or almost gone and I would be worried about dependability and high cost of repairs or other maintenance especially if the dealer asked the same price for it as he did for the low mileage car. Only a foolish person would buy that car and only a foolish man would marry someone with a high body count and a sex worker as well unless he was also a sex worker.
Along with these type of discussions, there are a myriad of women complaining that there are no good men out there leaving them forty, single and childless. Fortunately, there are some ladies who come on and counter this saying good men are out there, but they are not what those women want. Indeed, there are women who said they left a long term relationship with a good man because he was too good and ended up with a bad guy leaving her angry that he played her. The wise ladies told them the good guys were the ones being kept in the friend zone.
On a Steve Harvey segment, one lady said her friends told her to marry an ugly guy. He agreed and said that man would treat her like a queen because he would know he did not deserve a woman like her. Sadly, many women only want their body to be the main contribution to the relationship whereas one lady had over 100 requirements for the man of her dreams. Another wanted him to do all of the household chores and pay all the bills. I guess all she was going to do was sit on the couch eating chocolate and watching soap operas. One lady desperate for financial help assured any prospect that “there would be some sex up in here” literally making her a one client prostitute.
They opine that men do not want to approach women. After all the brouhaha of the Feminist movement where women scream they do not need a man why would you expect a man to approach you? Since 80% of divorces are filed by women, 90% if they are college grads, why would a man risk losing half of his assets and access to his children? One lady was mad when the show host said that she was less likely to get a man because she is a single mother. He said that not only would he lose his assets and the woman, he would also lose the child after he bonded with it making the divorce even more painful.
A great deal of the modern women are going to end up single and childless because of crazy standards, body count and because after fighting the stress and hoo-ha of the workplace a man does not want to come home to an Alpha woman who wants to command him as well. He will marry the woman who brings peace to his world even if she is plain and broke. Indeed, plain is better as she is less costly than the beauty queen. If he cannot find that woman, he will stay alone and sane.
One relationship adviser said that men can live without women unless they want children. That is true. We are basically simple creatures. We could almost live in a motel. The houses are for the wife and kids. Indeed, I only need a bed and a bathroom. If my wife were to die before me I would seriously consider selling everything and live in a motel. I told my wife, of nearly 54 years, after she was gone for a week that I could live without her, but I do not want to as it is not home when she is not there.
Many years ago, in a discussion, it was determined that a man could live much cheaper if he stayed single and hired a prostitute twice a week, which is more sex than most married men get.
Morally wrong, but the perspective was from a financial aspect. There is no one to nag him and he did not risk losing half of his assets. Risk of disease and in many places arrest, but many see that risk as much lower than divorce since the divorce rate is 50% and will most likely climb. With the ease of porn, AI and Japanese robots, the single option is appealing to many men if they do not want children.
Other men are getting passports and going to countries where women are still taught traditional marriage roles. Indeed, after viewing many of these videos if I were younger and single I would be heading overseas as well. Many of those woman are not the poorly educated, docile women as the feminists portray. They are just more rational about the way life is and what works best is what has been the standard for millennia.
Life is hard. If it is easier for two to face it together where his strengths are her weaknesses and her strengths are his weaknesses so that they are stronger together than they are apart making the choice of a life mate a more intensive search based on things other than physical beauty that fades. All the rest is romanticism and vain philosophy. Love matures over a long term relationship and if you are founded on a coal fire rather than a sexual pile of wood shavings it will last. Choose carefully and choose to go the long haul.
P.S. I do not condone a man with a high body count either, but most men are not out there bragging about like these ladies not seeing themselves as the prize solely on that experience. In my years of ministry, sex, money and children are the major causes of the first divorce and each divorce thereafter. Thus, seeing these videos does not bode well for marriage in these younger generations.
