In today's society, there's a growing trend of men who prioritize their physical appearance, material possessions, and financial status above all else. But is this really what women want? Do they need an "expensive" husband to be happy and fulfilled?
The Unwanted Traits:
- Expensiveness: Flashy spending and lavish lifestyles
- Materialism: Prioritizing possessions over people
- Vanity: Obsession with physical appearance
- Financial carelessness: Irresponsible spending and debt
- Superficiality: Valuing looks over character
What Women Really Want:
- Authenticity
- Humility
- Kindness
- Empathy
- Responsibility
- Genuine connection
- A partner who loves and respects them
- Someone who shares their values and goals
- A supportive and encouraging companion
- A team player who works together through life's challenges
- A loving father to their children
The Bible teaches us that we are called to love and care for our wives and children, just as Christ loves and cares for the church.
In Ephesians 5:25-33, we read: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her... In the same way, husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."
This passage makes it clear that our role is not just to provide financially, but to love, nurture, and care for the needs of our wives and children. This includes emotional support, spiritual guidance, and physical protection.
As men, we are called to be the servants-leaders of our households, just as Christ came to serve and give his life for us. This means putting the needs of our families before our own desires and interests.
In 1 Corinthians 11:3, we read: "The husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church." This does not mean that we are to rule over our wives and children, but rather that we are to lead by example, with love, humility, and sacrifice.
So, let us ask ourselves:
- Are we prioritizing the needs of our wives and children above our own?
- Are we providing emotional support and encouragement?
- Are we leading our families in prayer and spiritual growth?
- Are we protecting and serving our families with love and sacrifice?
The Reason for Rejection:
Women are turning away from men who embody these unwanted traits because they seek a deeper connection, shared values, and a meaningful relationship. Women deserve someone who will love and cherish them, not just someone who can afford to buy them expensive things.
Men, take note! Women desire a partner who is genuine, kind, and responsible. Let's redefine what it means to be a real man, one who values character over appearance and connection over material possessions. The myth of the "expensive" husband has led to unrealistic expectations and disappointment. Let's focus on what truly matters is, finding a partner who loves, supports, and values us for who we are. May we be challenged today to become the husbands and fathers that God is calling us to be. May we love and care for our wives and children, just as Christ loves and cares for us.
