We all have unique personalities. We are all different from each other but sometimes we come across negative destructive people as well, who loves to play blame shifting Game. They might have been disguised as families, as colleagues as friends etc.. These negative Narcissistic people are good gossipers, they are envious about other people’s success, always pessimistic, they have no ambitions, always complaining, falsely accusing others, blame shifting, lying on others etc. They're continuously searching for another person to fault for their way of behaving, or anything that in their life isn't turning out well for them, seldom to never conceding issue for the show or the aggravation they cause everyone around them.
They are egomaniac people who need mindfulness, regardless of the amount we attempt to help or clear up for them, they'll not acknowledge their liability. They'll simply find another person to fault or blame so that they can gain a false sense of superiority. “They are the most Self-absorbed individuals that are not keen on our clarifications. In this way they'll not acknowledge liability regarding their own way of behaving. They don't think rules apply to them. This negative behavior is also common among abusers. It occurs when an abuser does something wrong but then tries to turn it around on the other person and make it seem like they've done something wrong. They will not take responsibility for their own choices, instead they turn around and blame someone else.
If you have had a narcissist abuser in your life, then you likely have seen they never place the blame on themselves nor they take responsibility on their own actions, bad attitudes or for their evil behaviors. It is always someone else. Pathological personality disorder people lack their conscience because of their narcist pride, they don’t value any boundaries, they don’t accept failures for their own mistakes. Blaming others is an escape mechanism, which these narcist abusers are expert in it, which helps them to avoid the consequences. They are not interested in your explanations never admitting fault for the drama or the pain they cause to those around them. They’re interested in your reactions, over-emphasize, exaggerate, the fact in order to get pity and attention from others, so they can use those reactions to blame you for everything. Blame-shifting, accusing others with lies can have a significant impact on relationships since it can be so damaging and hurtful to others.
Rev 21:8 says but as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”
Ephesians 4:29 says Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
This becomes a pattern of dysfunctional behavior among them. They always like to play games of Blame, shame, manipulate and fabricate circumstances and pretend to be the victim. They love to try to move fault to others by completely ignoring the part of the situation in which he or she is at fault. The person might even refuse to speak to you or give a silent treatment or listen to the truth and they always want to justify why someone else is at fault. Never blame other people for your personal choices. Always approach problems in your life with a Godly Look, which can turn out better or worse because of your own choice and none else.
These people love to blame on others for their problems, for their personal choices, for their sinful behavior and attitudes and trying to prove that they are “victims.” Ignoring any personal accountability and responsibility for anything. They can even go to any extent of False swearing by the Name of God, or Swearing on Bible or Swearing in their loved one’s name. James 5:12 says but above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.
These people struggle with pride, lack of conscience, they have both superiority and inferiority complex issues, false humility or even display criminal behavior without remorse. They lack the ability to take responsibility for their own emotions and actions. They twist the reality and live in deception and confusion. We know that Satan is a father of lies, a cunning liar, accuser of brethren, and will confuse us with deception (John 8:44). Jesus tells us, those people do not have God as their Father but rather another father “the father of lies.” Who is the devil, also known as Satan.
Jesus says, “You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44).
Today we still see many people blaming God for visible evils in this world instead of blaming their own disobedience, rebellious, sin nature, innocence and personal choices.
When they keep blaming others for every mistake, they make in their life one day when they look back and realize they were the mistake all along. We are considered liable for accusing others, as a matter of fact! (Romans 14:12-13).
Blame shifting, accusation, lying, selfishness, self-pity, gossip, bitterness, critical spirits, anxiety, anger etc which open doors to sins and demons. We should discover that God doesn't permit us to keep away from the outcomes of our activities by accusing others.
False accusation, blame-shifting, lying started in the Garden of Eden. Adam said to God, ‘The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate” acc to Genesis 3:12. we must never blame God or the devil or anyone else for our problems, but to take personal responsibility for our actions, by repenting for our own sins, actions and consequences of our choices. We need to seek God's help in dealing successfully by removing our own speck from our own eyes. When Adam sinned and blamed Eve quickly, and eve blamed the snake(devil). God confronted them for their disobedience. Inspite of the devil’s temptation God held Adam and Eve responsible for their own sins.
Jesus received blasphemous false accusations from the world, He was denied, abandoned, mocked, was arrested and bound.
He was rejected by his own hometown and was asked deceitful questions. He was ridiculed by his own family members, he was blindfolded, beaten Struck with blows, was arrested, wounded, bruised unaccompanied by his accusers.
He was falsely charged, chastised, endured stripes, oppressed, led to slaughter, cut off from the land of the living, he was abused by the roman soldiers.
He was scourged, put on a crown of thorns on his head, a reed in His right hand Struck Him on the head with the reed. The soldiers stripped him and divided His garments, nailed on the cross, He bore his own cross and was crucified.
The chief priests with the scribes mocked and sneered at him. Even Jesus Christ was accused, took the blame innocently for what we did, and He suffered and died for our sins.
The devil and his demons tempt us continually. But they have no power to force us to sin, they can only offer temptations. It’s our decision either to reject the wiles of the devil or to fall for them.
Even the story of Joseph and his brothers says that Joseph was innocent of his brother’s sins, and Joseph had suffered terribly for it. He was Abandoned by his brothers, betrayed by them at a horrific level, falsely accused, being put in jail due to Potiphar’s wife retaliation by falsely accusing him of trying to rape her.
Accept God’s Word as our standard and make the effort to live by Gods standard. Acknowledge when we fail to accept our wrongdoing and blame others we are sinning against them. “Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed” (James 1:14).
God calls us to be honest and truthful. On the Day of Judgment, there will be no opportunities for blame-shifting, accusing and lying about others.
We do not need to be afraid of doing the right thing and we need our thoughts, behaviors, and actions into submission of God's truth. Those who are deceived in unrighteousness do not receive the love of the truth. They suppress the truth and evade it. “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” John 8:31-32.
Blame-shifting gets us nowhere and can keep us from seeing God’s sovereignty in our lives. It also keeps us from having a good healthy relationships with others. It keeps us focused on the problem and not the solution. It keeps us bound up in bitterness, unforgiveness, tormenting and harassing spirits from the Devil.
If you have found yourself blame-shifting if you have bought into the cultures or personality traits or Prideful excuses for sinful behavior. Allow the Holy Spirit to convict of your sinful behavior and attitudes with others. When the Holy Spirit draws near to you, you will come under terrible conviction of your sins, personal choices, failure to take responsibility of your wrongdoing and wrong thinking about others. God gives you conviction to invite you to restore fellowship with Jesus guiding you to all truth.
Because only Gods truth will set you free. When we are motivated by the pride, and status of the world, we are falling into temptation (1John2:16).
Conviction leads to your repentance which will radically transform you. True conviction always comes from the Holy Spirit. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide you to make your crooked path straight so that you can have a clear conscience before God and others. we truly need to repent and remember, there is no reconciliation without repentance. Otherwise, we will justify our actions and blame and accuse others for everything. The mark of a spiritually mature person is one who not only accepts responsibility without excuses but seeks to give God glory and thinks of the other person first. Being truthful honors the Lord, who is the “God of truth” according to Psalm 31: 5.
He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion (Prov 28:13)
When we are wrong or if we know only partial truth, we need to repent on our part, pray for the wrongdoer, love others with a servant attitude, pray and ask God to intervene into the situation and extend forgiveness to others. Otherwise, the devil will bombard your mind with lies, accusations, doubt, self-righteousness, and negative destructive thoughts because you have open doors to legion of evil spirits such as accusing spirits, spirit of unforgiveness, unbelief, hate, judgementalism, critical spirit, resentment, spirit of anger, bitterness etc, the accusing spirit works hand in hand with the family of religious spirits and strongholds, including legalism. The accusing spirit will also work in conjunction with spirits of guilt, shame, condemnation, hopelessness, despair, depression etc.
This will bring strongholds and strong bondages in our mind which is of the devil. Hence, we need to renew our mind with God's word, allow the Holy Spirit to work in our lives, and cleanse our mind with the Blood of Jesus Christ. when you have been seriously wronged, and realize that God will handle the wrongs, and injustice. True and final justice will eventually be granted to you one day because vengeance belongs to God. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
Deut 32:35 says Vengeance is Mine; I will repay. In due time their foot will slip; for their day of disaster is near, and their doom is coming quickly."
