Don't Blame Father God!
So often in my 63 years I have heard people complain about trauma and drama in their lives and blame God or wonder why He did not do something different in their lives or why He allowed various negative things to come into their lives. I admit I have had some of that in my life as well since I am a human and often as unwise as the rest of the race.
We live in a blame shifting, finger-pointing world where people never accept the responsibility for their actions or bad choices in life. We have become the victim. Once people thought “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” , which while not completely true was far more true than the current, “Woe is me! It's not my fault.” mentality that is permeating most Western cultures, but is especially pandemic in the US.
When I listen to all the various reasons given by people or various professionals for why crimes were committed or why their life is full of trauma, drama and failure I am amazed at all the stuff I did not do because my childhood was less than idyllic. Indeed, my circumstances were far more negative than positive and much of that I did not originate or have any control over, but still I did not respond in a positive way to all that so there were negatives that were my fault. Had I made more positive decisions regarding the negatives thrown at me I may have had a better childhood than I did.
Could I have overcome all of it by my actions? No, bullies are going to be bullies and people's assumptions are difficult to overcome, but I chose to sometimes play the game since I was most likely going to get the blame and the suffer the pain anyway. That was wrong. Though at the time, I did not think like this, it would have been better to suffer injustice for the things I did not do than to give the unjust perpetrators reason to believe they were justified in treating me as they did. My teachers and peers are responsible for the wrong done to me unjustly, but I was wrong for my reactions whether I acted those reactions out or held them in as bitterness and anger in my heart. That part was my fault and mine alone.
Many things have fairly easy solutions on the surface. Mad at the government? Vote and vote wisely. Mad at your employer? Get another job. Mad at the town? Move. In a bad relationship? Break it off. In debt? Spend less. You say, that all sounds simple. As I said, on the surface the answers are easy, but there are things that can make them more complex. How long we have been in the problem and the emotional ties with people or things can make it harder to make the positive decisions to correct the negative decisions we made.
Some decisions are impossible to reverse. If you have an incurable STD, it is not going to be turned around unless God does a miracle in your life. You cannot undo that condition. If you were in an accident because you were DUI or a passenger in the vehicle and you lost an arm or incurred some other injury on that level you cannot change it even if you determine to never again drive DWI or get into a car with a drunk driver. You cannot blame God or anyone else for the the STD or the injury, That was your choice and yours alone.
Matthew 23:37 O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, thou that killest the prophets, and stonest them which are sent unto thee, how often would I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings, and ye would not!
God has been trying to keep us from making bad decisions since the Garden. He has give us a book that is an instruction manual on how to navigate through this life. Life was simple in the Garden. One command was all that needed to be followed to keep life perfect. After the Fall, life became more complicated because human nature was doing the same thing as the universe. It was falling apart or degenerating. That degeneration was from the break in fellowship with God and amplified by the enemy of our souls and his minions. We got the knowledge of good and evil and yet we consistently chose evil and even the good we chose was sometimes not for a good reason. We may choose good because it is beneficial to us at the time, but we don't always see good as beneficial. If we did, the world would be so different even in our fallen state that it would seem like Eden compared to the world and the ways of the world we live in.
God sent prophets and others to mankind. That was showing His love for us and trying to get us back to Him. What happened to those folks? Most of the time they were ignored and often killed as the verse states. God would judge the people for the rejection because they were rejecting Him. It was great to be a minister when then people repented and revival happened, but it was rough being the first boots on the ground to get the revival going. They could not blame God. They made those choices. Sadly, many Gentiles benefited from God's prophets and blessings instead of His chosen people because the Gentiles had faith and His people did not. Again, that was the choices of the people, not God's fault.
Luke 6:46 And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?
Even sadder is that God's people are often still in that same situation. Now, we are not under law, but grace yet we still suffer from our bad choices. Before the Cross, many could have said, we did not have all the Scriptures, we did not have the Holy Spirit in us and other humanly reasonable excuses as well as not so reasonable. But what is our excuse?
We have the complete Word of God and we have the Holy Spirit in us, if we are truly born again, to guide us into ALL truth which means we have no excuse for our bad decisions that we try to blame on God. Has He not given us all we need in the Word and yet on top of that He gave us the Spirit to help us understand that Word and to help us pray when we ask for wisdom. So why do we call Him, Lord and yet do so many times opposite of what He says and then blame Him for the negative outcome? Why do we neglect to be grateful for all He does do for us and yet fuss when something happens that does not meet our expectations of what we think He should have done in our life? It is simple. We are unwise and to often in the flesh instead of the Spirit.
Too many times we just do not see that what appears to be negative in our life is very positive from the Father's perspective. God has allowed people to die as a blessing to them. Did we see it as a blessing? No! We were hurt. We grieved, but God knew it was best for the person and maybe even for the family to allow that person to die even if they were what we felt was too young to die.
Most of us are not rich, by the world's standards, because we get into enough trouble with what we have. If we were rich, we might fall into many more temptations and follies because we could afford it. So many lottery winners are broke within three years and worse off at the end than when they started. If you cannot handle a small budget you will not handle a large one well. We don't get the promotion because it would go to our heads and we would waste the raise on stuff we do not need. I have heard people talk about how God blessed them with a raise and a bigger house and shortly thereafter they were divorced. I don't think God works blessings that way.
Honestly look at your life and what has caused most of your drama? It was what you did or didn't do or who you interacted with or who you did not. It was how you reacted to negativity. It was your failure to grab an opportunity or you grabbed at something you should not have grabbed and now it will not let you go. It was all about you. You never asked your Heavenly Father it was a good thing for you. You exercised your free will and limited knowledge to make the decision and it flopped. The first thing you said was, “Why God??” The time to question Him was before the decision, before the relationship or the reaction. Trust me, I've been there. Sometimes it is hard to get to the point where you are willing to own your mistakes and often even harder to own your sin. Hard, but there is no path to freedom until you do own it. It is then you can go to Father God and ask Him to pick up the pieces and for wisdom and direction. It is never His fault for He is omniscience and knew what decision you would make and what road you would walk or run down. The glory and grace of it all is that He is waiting at the end of the trail and in the ashes of that decision to take you in His arms and heal you with His love.
If you are ready to walk away from the drama, trauma and sin, don't blame the Father. Come to Him! Admit the mess is yours and then ask for His touch of restoration and renewal. If you don't know Him as Father than come to Him for redemption. His Son Jesus died for you. Call out to Him to save you and He will lead you into the Father's presence and arms. Then the Holy Spirit will dwell in you to lead you into all truth that will guide and protect you if you heed what He shows you. Are you ready? He has been waiting for you to come. You will be welcomed. Don't wait! Father loves you and wants to bring you into a relationship like you have never known before and to raise you to levels you never imagined. Don't let pride or the enemy detain you. That would just be one more bad decision. If you spent a lifetime blaming the Father, it is still time to come home. He knows and He forgives and saves. He wants to be your Abba, Father! Come now! Maranatha!!!!
