THE RIGHT TIME FOR LOVE?
When is the right time for Love. The following verse gave us an idea that we should be wise to control our emotions at the right time.
Song of Solomon 2:7
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or the wild deer of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it is so desire.
Song of Solomon 8:4
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right. (NLT)
Judges 14:1-3
Samson’s Marriage
1Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman.
2 When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.”
3 His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?”
But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.”
Genesis 24:1-4
A Wife for Isaac
1 Abraham was now a very old man. The Lord had made him rich, and he was successful in everything he did.
2 One day, Abraham called in his most trusted servant and said to him, “Solemnly promise me
3 in the name of the Lord, who rules heaven and earth, that you won’t choose a wife for my son Isaac from the people here in the land of Canaan.
4 Instead, go back to the land where I was born and find a wife for him from among my relatives.”
Genesis 24:1-4 New International Reader's Version (NIRV)
Abraham’s Servant Finds a Wife for Isaac
1 By that time Abraham was very old. The Lord had blessed Abraham in every way.
2 The best servant in his house was in charge of everything Abraham had. Abraham said to him, “Put your hand under my thigh.
3 The Lord is the God of heaven and the God of earth. I want you to make a promise to me in his name. I’m living among the people of Canaan. But I want you to promise me that you won’t get a wife for my son from their daughters.
4 Instead, promise me that you will go to my country and to my own relatives. Get a wife for my son Isaac from there.”
Genesis 24:10-50
10 The servant chose ten of his master’s camels and left. He loaded the camels with all kinds of good things from his master. He started out for Aram Naharaim and made his way to the town of Nahor. 11 He stopped near the well outside the town. There he made the camels get down on their knees. It was almost evening, the time when women go out to get water.
12 Then he prayed, “Lord, you are the God of my master Abraham. Make me successful today. Be kind to my master Abraham. 13 I’m standing beside this spring. The daughters of the people who live in the town are coming out here to get water. 14 I will speak to a young woman. I’ll say to her, ‘Please lower your jar so I can have a drink.’ Suppose she says, ‘Have a drink of water, and I’ll get some for your camels too.’ Then let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. That’s how I’ll know you have been kind to my master.”
15 Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out. She was carrying a jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Milkah’s son Bethuel. Milkah was the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor. 16 The young woman was very beautiful. No man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring. She filled her jar and came up again.
17 The servant hurried to meet her. He said, “Please give me a little water from your jar.”
18 “Have a drink, sir,” she said. She quickly lowered the jar to her hands and gave him a drink.
19 After she had given him a drink, she said, “I’ll get water for your camels too. I’ll keep doing it until they have had enough to drink.” 20 So she quickly emptied her jar into the stone tub. Then she ran back to the well to get more water. She got enough for all his camels. 21 The man didn’t say a word. He watched her closely. He wanted to learn whether the Lord had given him success on the journey he had made.
22 The camels finished drinking. Then the man took out a gold nose ring. It weighed about a fifth of an ounce. He also took out two gold bracelets. They weighed about four ounces. 23 Then he asked, “Whose daughter are you? And please tell me something else. Is there room in your father’s house for us? Can we spend the night there?”
24 She answered, “I’m the daughter of Bethuel. He’s the son Milkah had by Nahor.” 25 She continued, “We have plenty of straw and feed for your camels. We also have room for you to spend the night.”
26 Then the man bowed down and worshiped the Lord. 27 He said, “I praise the Lord, the God of my master Abraham. The Lord hasn’t stopped being kind and faithful to my master. The Lord has led me on this journey. He has brought me to the house of my master’s relatives.”
28 The young woman ran home. She told her mother’s family what had happened. 29 Rebekah had a brother named Laban. He hurried out to the spring to meet the man. 30 Laban had seen the nose ring. He had seen the bracelets on his sister’s arms. And he had heard Rebekah tell what the man had said to her. So Laban went out to the man. He found him standing by the camels near the spring. 31 “The Lord has given you his blessing,” he said. “So come with me. Why are you standing out here? I’ve prepared my house for you. I also have a place for the camels.”
32 So the man went to the house. The camels were unloaded. Straw and feed were brought for the camels. And water was brought for him and his men to wash their feet. 33 Then food was placed in front of him. But he said, “I won’t eat until I’ve told you what I have to say.”
“Then tell us,” Laban said.
34 So he said, “I am Abraham’s servant. 35 The Lord has blessed my master greatly, and he has become rich. The Lord has given him sheep and cattle, silver and gold. He has also given him male and female servants, camels and donkeys. 36 My master’s wife Sarah had a son by him when she was old. He has given that son everything he owns. 37 My master made me promise him. He said, ‘I’m living in the land of the people of Canaan. But promise me that you won’t get a wife for my son from their daughters. 38 Instead, go to my father’s family and to my own relatives. Get a wife for my son there.’
39 “Then I asked my master, ‘What if the woman won’t come back with me?’
40 “He replied, ‘I have walked faithfully with the Lord. He will send his angel with you. He will give you success on your journey. So you will be able to get a wife for my son. She will be from my own relatives and from my father’s family. 41 When you go to my relatives, suppose they refuse to give her to you. Then you will be free from the promise you made to me.’
42 “Today I came to the spring. I said, ‘Lord, you are the God of my master Abraham. Please make me successful on this journey I’ve made. 43 I’m standing beside this spring. A young woman will come out to get water. I’ll say to her, “Please let me drink a little water from your jar.” 44 Suppose she says, “Have a drink of water, and I’ll get some for your camels too.” Then let her be the one the Lord has chosen for my master’s son.’
45 “Before I finished praying in my heart, Rebekah came out. She was carrying a jar on her shoulder. She went down to the spring and got water. I said to her, ‘Please give me a drink.’
46 “She quickly lowered her jar from her shoulder. She said, ‘Have a drink, and I’ll get water for your camels too.’ So I drank. She also got water for the camels.
47 “I asked her, ‘Whose daughter are you?’
“She said, ‘The daughter of Bethuel. He’s the son Milkah had by Nahor.’
“Then I put the ring in her nose. I put the bracelets on her arms. 48 And I bowed down and worshiped the Lord. I praised the Lord, the God of my master Abraham. He had led me on the right road. He had led me to get for my master’s son the granddaughter of my master’s brother. 49 Now will you be kind and faithful to my master? If you will, tell me. And if you won’t, tell me. Then I’ll know which way to turn.”
50 Laban and Bethuel answered, “The Lord has done all of this. We can’t say anything to you one way or the other. 51 Here is Rebekah. Take her and go. Let her become the wife of your master’s son, just as the Lord has said.”
Genesis 29:14-20
Jacob Marries Leah and Rachel
14 Jacob stayed with Laban for a whole month. 15 Then Laban said to him, “You are one of my relatives. But is that any reason for you to work for me for nothing? Tell me what your pay should be.”
16 Laban had two daughters. The name of the older one was Leah. And the name of the younger one was Rachel. 17 Leah was plain, but Rachel was beautiful. She had a nice figure. 18 Jacob was in love with Rachel. He said to Laban, “I’ll work for you for seven years so I can marry your younger daughter Rachel.”
19 Laban said, “It’s better for me to give her to you than to some other man. Stay here with me.” 20 So Jacob worked for seven years so he could marry Rachel. But they seemed like only a few days to him because he loved her so much.
THE RIGHT TIME FOR LOVE….
1. It must be “RATED – PG.”
PG stands for “Parental Guidance”
a. Parental Counsel.
Genesis 24:1-4
1 By that time Abraham was very old. The Lord had blessed Abraham in every way.
2 The best servant in his house was in charge of everything Abraham had. Abraham said to him, “Put your hand under my thigh.
3 The Lord is the God of heaven and the God of earth. I want you to make a promise to me in his name. I’m living among the people of Canaan. But I want you to promise me that you won’t get a wife for my son from their daughters.
4 Instead, promise me that you will go to my country and to my own relatives. Get a wife for my son Isaac from there.”
b. Parental Consent.
Genesis 29:16-18
16 Laban had two daughters. The name of the older one was Leah. And the name of the younger one was Rachel. 17 Leah was plain, but Rachel was beautiful. She had a nice figure. 18 Jacob was in love with Rachel. He said to Laban, “I’ll work for you for seven years so I can marry your younger daughter Rachel.”
c. Parental Choice.
Genesis 19:19
19 Laban said, “It’s better for me to give her to you than to some other man. Stay here with me.”
Judges 14:1-3
1Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman.
2 When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.”
3 His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?”
2. It must be “GODLY.”
a. Spiritually Matured
Mark 10:9
9 What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Malachi 2:16
16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”
b. Glorifying to God
Genesis 24:50-51
50 Laban and Bethuel answered, “The Lord has done all of this. We can’t say anything to you one way or the other.
51 Here is Rebekah. Take her and go. Let her become the wife of your master’s son, just as the Lord has said.”
c. Blessings to the Community
Genesis 29:21-22
21 Then Jacob said to Laban, “Give me my wife, for my [f]time is completed, that I may go in to her.” 22 Laban gathered all the men of the place and made a feast.
3. It must be “TIMELY.”
a. Readiness
( Emotionally, Mentally, Physically, Socially and Financially )
Lessons from the Life of Adam…
1. Adam was in the Garden of Eden
- The guy must be a Christian, and stays in God’s presence.
2. Adam was Working in the Garden
- The must have a Good Paying and Stable Job.
3. Adam was Out of Sight when the Tempter came.
- The guy must have quality time for the woman and family.
b. Willingness
(You made a tough decision to be with the person for the rest of your life)
Marriage is about COMMITMENT. – You are committed to one another no matter what happen.
Genesis 24:54-58
54 Then he and the men who were with him ate and drank and spent the night. When they arose in the morning, he said, “Send me away to my master.” 55 But her brother and her mother said, “Let the girl stay with us a few days, say ten; afterward she may go.” 56 He said to them, “Do not delay me, since the Lord has prospered my way. Send me away that I may go to my master.” 57 And they said, “We will call the girl and [t]consult her wishes.” 58 Then they called Rebekah and said to her, “Will you go with this man?” And she said, “I will go.”
c. Happiness
( You know what would make you really happy)
Genesis 2:21-24
But for Adam[f] no suitable helper was found.
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[g] and then closed up the place with flesh.
22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman, for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
