Exodus 20:12
Parental Pride!
As I prepared this series, I realized how little we actually preach or teach on the Ten Commandments as if they are neither important nor relevant. They are both. It was very enlightening to me to preach through them. I learned a lot! I trust this series will encourage you to also preach through the Ten Commandments!
Introduction
Parents want the best for their children. I do not know of one parent who would utter, “I hope my children are miserable in life.” Nor would they say, “I hope my children spend eternity in hell!”
We want the best for them. We want them to succeed. We want them to know Jesus Christ as Savior.
We exhibit our love for our children by establishing rules for them AND their “dates.” Here is something I found useful!
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8 SIMPLE RULES FOR DATING MY DAUGHTER
When I was in high school I used to be terrified of my girlfriend’s father, who I believe suspected me of wanting to place my hands on his daughter’s chest. He would open the door and immediately affect a good-naturedly murderous expression, holding out a handshake that, when gripped, felt like it could squeeze carbon into diamonds.
Now, years later, it is my turn to be the dad. Remembering how unfairly persecuted I felt when I would pick up my dates, I do my best to make my daughter’s suitors feel even worse. My motto: wilt them in the living room and they’ll stay wilted all night.
"So," I’ll call out jovially. "I see you have your nose pierced. Is that because you’re stupid, or did you merely want to APPEAR stupid?"
As a dad, I have some basic rules, which I have carved into two stone tablets that I have on display in my living room.
Rule One: If you pull into my driveway and honk you’d better be delivering a package, because you’re sure as heck not picking anything up.
Rule Two: You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter’s body, I will remove them.
Rule Three: I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don’t take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose this compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, In order to assure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric staple gun and fasten your trousers securely in place around your waist.
Rule Four: I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate: when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I WILL kill you.
Rule Five: In order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early."
Rule Six: I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make YOU cry.
Rule Seven: As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process which can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don’t you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?
Rule Eight: The following places are not appropriate for a date with my Daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places lacking parents, policemen, or nuns. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka zipped up to her chin. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which feature chainsaws are okay. Hockey games are okay.
My daughter claims it embarrasses her to come downstairs and find me attempting to get her date to recite these eight simple rules from memory. I’d be embarrassed too there are only eight of them, for crying out loud! And, for the record, I did NOT suggest to one of these cretins that I’d have these rules tattooed on his arm if he couldn’t remember them. (I checked into it and the cost is prohibitive.) I merely told him that I thought writing the rules on his arm with a ball point might be inadequate ink washes off and that my wood burning set was probably a better alternative.
One time, when my wife caught me having one of my daughter’s would-be suitors practice pulling into the driveway, get out of the car, and go up to knock on the front door (he had violated rule number one, so I figured he needed to run through the drill a few dozen times) she asked me why I was being so hard on the boy. "Don’t you remember being that age?" she challenged.
Of course I remember. Why do you think I came up with the eight simple rules?
SOURCE: From the book "8 Simple Rules for Dating my Daughter by W. Bruce Cameron, copyright 1998. [ www.wbrucecameron.com ]
Now you know why fathers are so protective of their daughters…and I am not alone!
“Honor your father and your mother” (כָּבַד to make honorable, honor, glorify; to hold in high opinion, to reverence)
A Principle to remember 12a
First, God established the family.
There are no accidents in God’s sovereign plan and purposes. He established a man and woman as His preferred way of raising children. The family is God’s institution. Not two men or two women.
Second, it’s a command!
You are to be obedient. It is not optional. Your parents were given to you because God knew what you needed to become the person He wants.
Third, you need to display an attitude of gratefulness!
Their sacrifices are for you! Show them how much you appreciate what they do.
It’s your responsibility to respect both of them.
Yes, I’m talking about your mom and dad! They deserve your respect. Read Romans 13 and see what God has to say about authority.
Illustration – 4 stages of children
Children normally go thru 4 stages:
• Idolize their parents—A fun stage when they think you can’t do anything wrong.
• Demonize their parents—somehow their brain falls out their ear and their parents become the enemy. They are the cause of all our problems...even high gas prices! They can’t do anything right. But then they work thru that stage and learn to...
• Utilize their parents—they get smart and start complementing their parents and then ask for the car keys.
• Humanize their parents—they realize they aren’t God or the devil, just people. They have strengths and weaknesses just like us. In fact, as they grow older they become just like us!
“That your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.”
A Promise to cherish
It’s Personal – your days
Parents have often quoted, “I brought you into this world and I can take you out of this world.”
There are children of broken and blended homes who need YOU to love them, guide them and correct them in a Christ-like way!
It’s Eventful – long in the land
Blessings in the land God gives you is long life. There will also be blessings of long life in the land to the generations who follow you. A radically changed life in Jesus Christ is evidenced through a students obedience to their parents…ergo, long life.
It’s Unbelievable – God is giving you
God gives you both long life and the land you live in. Enjoy them from Him!
Illustration - A Parents Prayer
Oh Heavenly Father, make me a better parent. Teach me to understand my children, to listen patiently to what they have to say, and to answer all their questions kindly.
Keep me from interrupting them or criticizing them. Make me as courteous to them as I would have them be to me.
Forbid that I should ever laugh at their mistakes or resort to shame or ridicule when they displease me.
May I never punish them for my own selfish satisfaction or to show my power.
Let me not tempt my child to lie or steal, but guide me, hour by hour, that I might demonstrate in everything that I say or do, that honesty produces happiness.
May I ever be mindful that my children are children, and that I should not expect of them the judgment of adults.
Let me not rob them of the opportunity to wait on themselves and to make decisions.
Bless me with the bigness to grant them their reasonable requests and the courage to deny them the privileges I know could do them harm.
Make me fair, just and kind, and fit me, O Lord, to be loved, respected, and imitated by my children, and help me always remember that better parents raise better children.
