BALANCE IN THE HOME
Thursday, March 17, 2011
SERIES
Lesson # 1 HUSBANDS TOWARD WIVES
(Notes From UPCI Teachers manual)
Matt 19:3-6
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
(KJV)
Gen 2:18
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (KJV)
Gen 2:20
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. (KJV)
MEET
(met), adjective (yashar; axios): Various words are employed to express meetness, the sense of what is proper, worthy, or fit.
(from International Standard Bible Encylopaedia,
In essence, God made woman for a lot of reasons but one that is important is to balance him, all of the dominion he had been given could potentially cause him to indiscriminate against God and be uncontrollable.
We only have authority when it is given to us from someone who has obtained it.
God gave authority to man and said to take dominion, man and because he is the head of the human race, the entire human race lost dominion because of insubordination to God’s command.
Because of lace of submission he lost dominion.
God always transfers authority, dominion, and anointing from head flowing down.
The Headship Of The Bible--The Authority structure That God Set Up.
1. God 2. 5 Fold Ministries 3. Man 4. woman 5. Children
There are lines of authority…
1. Spiritual authority 2.Civil authority
1 Cor 11:3
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
(KJV)
Note: all these with asterisks are the preface of each paragraph in the UPCI teachers manual.
** With divorce stalking the home like a roaring lion, it behooves us to carefully consider the relationship that exists between husband and wife.
** First, scriptural headship in the home rests with the husband. He cannot abdicate his role as head of the home without incurring God’s displeasure.
*** As head of the home he is head of the wife.
** Christ loves the church. He is her Deliverer, Saviour, Provider, Protector, and Spiritual Leader.
** To submit to such a loving Saviour is no problem for the church. She knows that He requires nothing of her that is not for her own welfare.
*** In essence Christ formed a partnership with the church.
** The husband was created with the capacity to assume the responsibilities of headship.
** His leadership is as Christ’s if it is to be at it’s best.
** The man who refuses to accept his role as leader and guide cannot experience fulfillment in life.
1 Pet 3:7
7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
(KJV)
1 Pet 3:7
7 You husbands must be careful of your wives, being thoughtful of their needs and honoring them as the weaker sex. Remember that you and your wife are partners in receiving God's blessings, and if you don't treat her as you should, your prayers will not get ready answers.
(TLB)
A new wife…
Deut 24:5
5 When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
(KJV)
1 Cor 7:1-5
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
(KJV)
Thayers says…
591 apodidomi-benevolence
1) to deliver, to give away for one's own profit what is one's own, to sell
2) to pay off, to discharge what is due
a) a debt, wages, tribute, taxes, produce due
b) things promised under oath
c) conjugal duty
d) to render account
3) to give back, to restore
4) to requite, to recompense in a good or a bad sense
Online dictionary says… Benevolence; a desire to do good to others, an act of kindness, feeling or
Eph 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (KJV)
Col 3:19
19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. (KJV)
4087 pikraino-
1) to make bitter, to be embittered or irritated
to produce a bitter taste in the stomach
2) to embitter, to exasperate
a) to render angry or indignant
c) to visit with bitterness, to grieve (deal bitterly with)
1 Tim 5:8
8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
(KJV)
