Sunday June 22nd, 2008
“Divine Emotional Healing”
Mind, Emotion, Physical
Title: The Father Wound II
This morning I’d like to continue preaching on the subject of “The Father Wound”. Church Emotional healing is just as important an physically healing in regards to Divine Healing. God’ has really impressed me to preach part B today. So this morning if you have your bible’s I’d like you to turn to:
Mal 4: 4-6
4 “ Remember the Law of Moses, My servant,
Which I commanded him in Horeb for all Israel,
With the statutes and judgments.
5 Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet
Before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the LORD.
6 And he will turn
The hearts of the fathers to the children,
And the hearts of the children to their fathers,
Lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.”
I am going to tell you what, when you begin dealing emotional wounding, and begin separating the truth from a lie, the devil doesn’t like it. This week I haven’t slept, have had heartburn every night, just totally felt drained this week.
Church, there are folks here …….that are bound…. emotionally due to the relationship they had with their Father… that is affecting and oppressing…. their relationship ….with God
Listen, spiritual oppression ……. Subordinates our will
………Captivates our minds
……… Limits or relationships
Spiritual oppression takes up our energy to act upon spiritual things,
Listen, the Adversary doesn’t want me to preach this morning, because the Father Wound has done generational damage that infects every Christian in some form, that limits what Christ can do through us.
John 8:32
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
It is God’s desire that you be set free from the Bondage of Father Wounds.
Let me be clear this morning;
The Way you view your earthen father………….. will determine….. how you view your…. Heavenly Father, because your subconscious… is fundamentally trained to process the word “father”. to the nearest example.. in your life.
How do we heal the “Father Wound?”
Last week we discussed that first step to emotional healing was that we must validate that the Father Wound Exist, and second we must confess that we cannot deal with the Father Wound alone.
In the movie Dad there was a part in it where, not knowing how long Jack has to live, Jack asks his son a question that hit me like a ton of bricks: he asks” we’ve never hugged before…can we try now?” As the story continues John see’s that he tried to fulfill his longing for a relationship with his dad with work, and was setting his own young son up to continue the cycle.
John hesitates at first, but he agrees, and father and son are seen embracing for the first time in their life.
Watching “DAD” was like running my heart through a cheese grater for two hours and as soon as it was through I broke down in front of my class sobbing uncontrollably. John’s story had hit the deepest nerve of my heart: I was the hard charging, empty workaholic who was starved for his father’s love and acceptance. The worst part was I didn’t know what to do about it.
What do you do when you identify the Father Wound?
3.) Expose The Father Wound
Validating is simply confirming that the wound exist,
Alex Queener, surgery last Wed morning/Wed night I told him he was faking/showed me a pic of his stapled leg/good thing I already ate/ he said” now there’ proof”.
Now Church, we can deal with physical wounds, we have antiseptics, Neosporin, gauze, staples, stitches, skin grafts and bandages. We are ok with flesh wounds. But the emotional gash that is unseen by the human eye is far more devastating, because these wounds often aren’t cared for properly and all to often become infected and can consume the whole body.
Exposing the emotional wound is doing something about it
This morning,… isn’t it about time… that you expose your wounded heart before God?
It about time that you open up your righteous band aid to the wound
Isaiah 64:6
But we are all like an unclean thing, And all our righteousness are like filthy rags;
This morning you have got an opportunity to allow your wound’s to breathe, out from under those “filthy rags” you have bound them up with.
When you expose your wound to God, you are saying that
Your way isn’t working,
Your way is only numbing the pain,
Your way has infected other areas of your life.
I need to say this:
If your father abused you physically, mentally or sexually
“You are not going to live up to his expectations” Preach
Your abusive father’s expectations were selfish, and unattainable.
If you haven’t worked though this, you need to find a good Christian counselor to work through those wounds.
There is only one expectation that God requires of you.
Luke 9:23
Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me.
If you follow Him, you will get saved,
If you follow Him, you will get baptized,
If you follow Him, you will be discipled,
If you follow him, you will keep His commandments,
If you follow Him, you will go to heaven AMEN
That is what God expects out of you. For you to try daily to follow Him.
John 8:44
44He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.
Satan is the Father of Lies
When we expose the Emotional Wound to God……quickly
You take the secrecy away,
You take chains off of your spirit,
You are fully trusting God to heal your heart.
Satan wants you to think your dredging up the past
That someone will make fun of you or say your disrespectful,
He wants to antagonize you with your broken heart
Preach a lil bit” But when the blood of Jesus Christ was applied to your life you became joint heirs with Jesus Christ, and we have the victory over the Father of Lies, because we know “the Way, the Truth and the Life”, and it is the Truth-Jesus, that can set you free. Glory
Mal 4:6
6 And he will turn
The hearts of the fathers to the children,
Listen God isn’t blind to the Father Wound, he was aware of it even in the Old Covenant. That was why he sent His son, to bring reconciliation back to God the Father.
This morning you need to open up to God and say “Lord here it is, I can’t carry this any longer, and give it to Him.”
What do you do when you identify the Father Wound?
How do we heal the “Father Wound?”
4.) Embrace His Grace
Grace- unearned love given from God to reconcile us back to Him, even when we don’t deserve it.
Mal 4:6
6 And he will turn
The hearts of the fathers to the children,
And the hearts of the children to their fathers,
Lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.”
The Malachi text is the final passage of the Old Covenant. Signifying, a promise and a warning that the New Covenant, was at the threshold to the coming Messiah. It implies that the brokenness in this world between children and fathers reflects the brokenness between humanity and God. That is through Jesus’ coming, he will restore the right relationship with the Father through His saving power in this world.
See, Jesus came to reconcile humanity to the Father (John 14:8-13). Nowhere in this world is there a desire for that reconciliation felt more keenly than in relationship with our earthly fathers. The father-wound portrayed in the Malachi text is the difference between what your father has given you and what Father God wants to give you.
No pain strikes more deeply into a man or woman’s heart than being abandoned emotionally and/or physically by a father. No pain, therefore, more directly beckons the saving power of Father God. That's why God's eschatological vision focuses directly on healing it--as in the Malachi text.
And that's why the Enemy of God is Hell-bent to make us deny not only the father-wound itself, but the Fatherhood of God.
God doesn’t want you to forgive your Father for the wounds that were inflicted upon you! He doesn’t expect you to forgive and forget.
God wants us to go farther than forgiveness,
Wants us to go farther then just forgetting,
He wants you to exceed man’s expectations
And supersede in Christ and God’s expectations.
The only way that you are going to get Victory over the Emotional Father wound is for you to offer grace through God
Each of us has experienced the provision of grace through the salvation of our souls. And just as we have been given grace we to must propel grace to others.
Mal 4:2
2 But for you who revere my name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in his wings.
There is only One sun of Righteousness, and His name is Jesus. And it is only through Him that we can be healed, Amen
When you offer grace towards your father, you accept the past as it was, and ready yourself to how it will be. No matter how abusive or absent your father was, you accept what happened, and stop blaming your father for your current problems.
Grace is not a one-time event. A Grace offering is done daily.
Grace happens emotionally when we feel the pain and sadness from letting go of a better past. It happens when we stop blaming our fathers, and stop using anger to shield us from our sadness.
Grace happens in our thoughts when we see our fathers for who they were, and not for whom we wanted them to be. It happens when we end the illusion and see him in his own humanness.
Grace offerings is a process, and it may take time to work though with the Lord. The energy that was devoted to the Father Wound can now be devoted to things that matter: passion, love, and truth.
2 Corinthians 5:18
All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:
Grace is reconciliation that is unmerited.
In our society you don’t something for nothing, but with God you do. Those are his expectations with us. But we don’t have to do it alone. We reconcile our “Father Wound” through Christ, it is only through Him that we can experience healing from an emotional wound.
Church, there is no escaping the memories but through Christ they can slowly fade away into distant obscure memories
What do you do when you identify the Father Wound?
We must validate that the Father Wound Exist, and second we must confess that we cannot cope with the Father Wound alone, thirdly we must expose the wound to God, and lastly Embrace Grace to heal .
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