Preventing Conflicts In The Church

PREVENTING CONFLICTS IN THE CHURCH

By Rev. Samuel Arimoro

Main Text: Romans 12:17-21

Supporting Texts: Genesis 13:5-9, 1 Samuel 25:14-35, Proverbs 15:1, Matthew 5:9, Ephesians 4:2-3

INTRODUCTION:

Conflict is not only destructive but also a powerful tool the enemy uses to divide and weaken the Church. While conflict is sometimes inevitable, many issues can be avoided with wisdom, humility, and intentionality. A healthy church is not one that never faces conflict, but one where the people are mature enough to prevent it before it takes root.

In Scripture, we find examples of people who, through discernment and godly wisdom, averted major crises that could have destroyed relationships, families, and even destinies. Preventing conflict requires the ability to see beyond ego, to prioritise peace, and to choose the path of love and humility even when you are right.

This message will equip us with practical and spiritual principles to avoid unnecessary quarrels, misunderstandings, and offences that the enemy could use to scatter God’s people. When believers walk in unity and understanding, the Church becomes an unstoppable force for God’s glory.

1. CHOOSE PEACE OVER PRIDE

Peace is always possible when we value relationships more than our personal pride.

a) Let Go of Entitlement (Genesis 13:8–9)

Abraham had the right to choose first, but he gave Lot the opportunity to avoid strife.

b) Humility Quenches Tension (Philippians 2:3)

When you consider others better than yourself, conflict is minimised.

c) Avoid Proving a Point at All Costs (Proverbs 20:3)

Honour is found in avoiding strife, not in winning arguments.

d) Be Willing to Make Sacrifices for Peace (Romans 12:18)

Sometimes peace requires giving up your right to be right.

Biblical Example: Abraham avoided conflict with Lot by offering him the choice of land, preserving family unity (Genesis 13:8–9).

2. SPEAK WITH WISDOM AND GRACE

Words can either ignite a fire or calm a storm.

a) Think Before You Speak (Proverbs 15:28)

A wise person weighs their words before speaking in tense situations.

b) Use Gentle Responses (Proverbs 15:1)

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

c) Avoid Public Confrontation When Possible (Matthew 18:15)

Private discussion often diffuses tension better than public correction.

d) Speak to Reconcile, Not to Accuse (Colossians 4:6)

Let your speech be gracious, aiming to build up and not tear down.

Biblical Example: Abigail used wisdom and soft words to prevent David from shedding blood and avenging himself (1 Samuel 25:23–33).

3. PRACTISE FORGIVENESS AND UNDERSTANDING

Holding grudges creates an atmosphere for conflict to thrive.

a) Bear With One Another (Ephesians 4:2)

Tolerate differences and imperfections without offence.

b) Be Quick to Forgive (Colossians 3:13)

Forgive as Christ forgave you, freely and repeatedly.

c) Understand Before Judging (Proverbs 18:13)

Listen with the intention to understand, not to react.

d) Don’t React Based on Assumptions (James 1:19–20)

Be slow to speak and slow to anger; assumptions fuel conflict.

Biblical Example: Joseph chose to forgive his brothers and not repay them with evil, thus preserving the unity of his family (Genesis 45:1–15).

4. PROMOTE A CULTURE OF UNITY AND RESPECT

Conflict is less likely where honour and mutual respect abound.

a) Honour One Another in Love (Romans 12:10)

Respect reduces conflict by fostering a culture of value.

b) Avoid Cliques and Divisions (1 Corinthians 1:10)

Promote unity, not camps or factions in the church.

c) Address Grievances Promptly and Privately (Matthew 5:23–24)

Don’t let offences fester; resolve issues quickly.

d) Celebrate Diversity in the Body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:12–14)

We are different but united in Christ. Diversity is not division.

Biblical Example: The early Church in Acts 6:1–7 averted a racial conflict through dialogue, delegation, and wisdom.

CONCLUSION:

Preventing conflict in the Church requires a heart that is surrendered to Christ and a will that is ready to choose peace over pride. When believers learn to speak with grace, forgive quickly, and value unity, the schemes of the enemy are defeated before they start.

The Church must be a place where the love of Christ prevails over every disagreement, and where the people are committed to protecting the bond of peace. May we all become agents of peace and vessels of honour in God’s house.

PRAYER POINTS:

1. Lord, give me a humble heart that chooses peace over pride.

2. Father, teach me to use my words wisely and graciously.

3. I receive the grace to forgive and understand others quickly.

4. Let the spirit of unity reign in our Church, O Lord.

5. Lord, raise peacemakers and bridge-builders among us.