Need For Limits And Boundries Series

The Hungry Games – Part 1 – Dr. Travis Shipley

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Banana Minion Song -Youtube

BANANA put back- Cut up a banana into 10 pieces, get four groups of two people, give them toothpicks and scotch tape and give them 3-4 mins to fix the banana the way it was.

Banana blind- This takes 8 people, sit down four in chairs, give them each an animal sound to make. Blind fold 4 partners and give them each an animal sound to make, the four partners must find the same animal and feed them the banana.

Message:

For the next several weeks, we are going to study what teenagers and students needs. People have forgotten that youth have needs as well, we are going to look at what youth need the most

One of the greatest needs are for Guidance and Limits

4 1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.4 You adulterous people,[a] don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.."

People who live without boundaries often lack self-control. Paul wrote to Timothy, "Discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness. For godliness is profitable not only in the this life but also in the age to come." (I Tim. 4:7,8) The Bible teaches us, "When to say Yes, when to say No and when to take control of your life."

There are 7 things I want you to learn tonight.

1. We all have to set limits. You have to have a set of guidelines. James 4:2 says, "You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight." People who are boundaryless tend to feel empty and unfulfilled. They look at other people who are happy and feel envious. James writes, "You have not because you ask not."

The Bible teaches us to be doers of the word and not merely hearers who deceive themselves. Too many people fail to set limits on their envy because they do not replace it with obedience and trust in the Lord to supply them with what is satisfying. Jesus said, "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness for they will be satisfied." (Matt 5:6-8)

2. Replace negative motivations with positive incentives:

A. Fear of loss of love or abandonment should be replaced with a confidence that nothing can separate us from the love of God. (Rom. 8:37-39) Some people give to get love and when they do not get it they feel abandoned.

B. Fear of others’ anger and all the hurt should be replaced with Christ’s grace, love, hope, peace and fellowship of the Spirit. Paul writes, "May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with us now and forever." (2 Cor. 16:13) Some people cannot stand for others to be mad at them.

C. Fear of loneliness should be replaced with the certainty that "There is a friend, the Lord Jesus, who sticks closer than a brother." There is not a friend like the humble Jesus, no not one. None else can heal all our souls diseases. Jesus knows all about our struggles. He will guide till the day is done." Do not give in to people because you think you can win their love and end your feelings of loneliness

D. Fear of losing the "good me" inside should be replaced with a bold love that helps us stand up to abusive people. Paul wrote, "Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the full armor of God so you can stand in the evil day." (Eph. 6:10-12) Some people think that they always have to say yes in order to demonstrate love and to be loved.

E. Fear of feeling guilty should be replaced with the fact that there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Rom. 8:1,2) Paul wrote, "For the law of the Spirit of life has set us free from the law of sin and death." Some people feel bad when they say no so they keep trying to earn a sense of goodness through others approvals and give in to the guilt trips and pressures of people.

F. Fear of payback should be replaced by the realization that Christ has paid our penalty in full. Do not feel a burden to pay for all that you have been given. Paul wrote, "For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things." (Rom. 11:35,36)