Marriage The Right Person Series

Quest for the Sacred Rings

Lord of the Rings (part 3 of 5)

“Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Will he not first sit down and estimate the cost to see if he has enough money to complete it? 29 For if he lays the foundation and is not able to finish it, everyone who sees it will ridicule him, 30 saying, ‘This fellow began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31 “Or suppose a king is about to go to war against another king. Will he not first sit down and consider whether he is able with ten thousand men to oppose the one coming against him with twenty thousand? 32 If he is not able, he will send a delegation while the other is still a long way off and will ask for terms of peace. 33 In the same way, any of you who does not give up everything he has cannot be my disciple. Lk. 14:25-34 (NIV)

Top reasons to not get married:

1. Love at first sight:

2. Rebounding:

3. Rebellion:

4. Loneliness:

5. Obligation:

6. Financial advancement:

7. Sexual attraction:

8. Premarital pregnancy:

9. Escape:

10. Pressure:

Six things you should know about love.

1. Love does not have to hurt. Physical or emotional abuse are not a part of love.

2. Love is not manipulative; it should to get what you want. (“ if you loved me!”)

3. Love is always about caring.

4. Although it is true that a big part of love is putting another person’s happiness ahead of your own this never includes compromising your values or being untrue to yourself.

5. When you love another person you don’t ask them to sacrifice a part of themselves for that love.

6. It is very easy to confuse lust for love.

People tend to prepare for a “wedding” not a marriage.

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure!!!

(Ways to marry the “right” person.)

1- Take Your Time Choosing a Mate. “Count the cost”

1- “A new broom sweeps clean”, “All new mattresses feel great.”

2- There is a direct relationship between time and maturity!

2- Don’t Play the Dating Game.

1- There are no temporary relationships for Christians!

2- Don’t be “unequally yoked” together with a normal.

3- (READ “Life With A Normal?” at the end of this document)

14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15 What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” 17 “Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” 18 “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.” 2 Cor. 6:14-18 (NIV)

3- Choose a Mate Based on Character.

Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Cor. 15:33 (NIV)

1- Don’t just not married a “Normal”; don’t marry a carnal Christian either.

2- Habits? Friends? Directions?

3- You will marry someone who you date!

4- Then only date someone who you might want to marry!!!

4- Don’t Have Sex of Any Kind with Anyone Before Marriage!

Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 2 Ti m. 2:22 (NIV)

Marriage should be honoured by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Heb 13:4 (NIV)

Dear friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul. 1 Pet 2:11 (NIV)

1- Love is based on trust?

2- The great sin in marriage is selfishness!

3- If it starts before marriage you will probably never get it out!!!

5- Be Sure You Have the Financial Resources to Make it

1- More marital stress over money than any other one issue.

A feast is made for laughter, and wine makes life merry, but money is the answer for everything. Ecc. 10:19 (NIV)

6- Get Your Own Priorities Straight and let Relationships Happen.

33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Mt. 6:33-34 (NIV)