Marriage Series

One day last year, I came home to my very apologetic wife. I picked up a coffee travel mug at Starbuck’s last year sometime and was very happy with it. The problem is that I have a problem with leaving it in the car after I finish drinking it. The coffee had fused the lid to the top of the mug. Well, I finally took it out of the car after being heat sealed with the coffee over several days. Monica, trying to help, took the coffee cup and was going to put it in the dishwasher. She tried and tried to twist the top off and finally broke the handle the process.

When things are bonded tightly to one another, separating them will break something. That’s why divorce hurts, because once they are bound together the bound is not supposed to break and our hearts and our homes get broken in the process.

The Bible teaches that there is to be a bond, like glue to hold the two people together.

Monday morning, I left to go to Talafar. I saw that we were going to ride Black Hawks, instead of the Chinooks, which was ok with me—because my last trip on a Chinook was not that enjoyable.

So we get on the Blackhawk, which I discovered had no windows. We took off and flew to the FARP and I began to feel the wind on my face. It was then that I realized that this trip would be bad.

So we took off again and flew toward Mosul. The birds began to pick up speed and I feel myself getting plastered to the back of the aircraft. My glasses were flying off! For those of you who haven’t felt this—think about it this way.

If you have ever rode in the back of a pick-up, you have probably tried to stand up. When you stand up, you are hit in the face with the wind from the speed of the truck. Take that wind blast and drive 100 miles and hour and that’s what it feels like.

The problem was that I was committed. I could not get out. I could not move. I had to sit there while I got pounded. I knew there would come a time when the helicopter would land and I would be able to change seats, but for the time being I was stuck where I was.

There are times when we get pretty beat up in our marriages. Remember the vow you took “to have and to hold, for richer or poorer, for better or worse.” These are the times that you must hold on to the vow and realize that this is the worse that you are experiencing. Stay committed and together as you whether the storm you will become one.

Genesis 2:24:

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Ge:2:24, NKJV)

In order to conform to the design of God, the couple must become

3. One

This is one of the mysteries of the Christian life and one of the biggest mysteries of human relations. How can two people become one person?

One of the common adages about marriage is that a marriage is 50/50. There is a common thought is that if the marriage is 50/50 they are doing everything they can do to have a good marriage. Interestingly enough, however, when we look at our marriages as 50/50—each partner thinks that they are putting in 60% or more. This where many arguments in sue—each person in the couple feels like they must stand up for their rights. The 50/50 marriage is completely unbiblical.