Marriage And Conflict

Conflict in marriage is an inevitable situation that could have positive and negative effects on a relationship. The understanding of marriage in the Bible: "Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him. Genesis 2: 21-22: "And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man." Analyzing the causes and effects of conflict in marriage can help couples better understand each other, communicate more effectively, and resolve their issues constructively.

Find Out the Sources of Conflict. Identify the behaviors and situations that trigger disagreements in a relationship. "It is good to know the cause, what triggers conflict, and the most common ground of conflict in relationships: Truth, jealousy, personality habits, sex, finances, children, time management, communication and power dynamics, and submission—decision making." The source of conflict varies from partner to partner. That is another reason communication helps partners discover the sour.

Understanding the Emotions and Needs of Others. Conflict directs attention to problems that need solving. It enables partners to address issues head-on, generating strength and focusing on finding solutions. Knowing the feelings and desires that cause one to engage in conflict is especially important in resolving it. Understand your spouse's emotions during conflict and find solutions to meet each other's needs. Some common emotions and needs that could trigger conflict are uncontrolled anger, fear, hurt, frustration, love, respect, security, and intimacy.

The Impact of Conflict. Conflict can affect the quality of fellowshipping, stability, and satisfaction in a relationship. Conflict could negatively impact a partner's physical, mental, and emotional health. Partners need to resolve conflict as quickly as possible to avoid stress, anxiety, depression, resentment, distrust, distance, and disunity. It is better to resolve conflict in good faith; partners should not allow it to stay long because it could affect their union.

Study the Patterns and Styles of Partners in Conflict. It is suitable for partners to study the approach and how they handle conflict. Some partners may not use the word 'I am sorry," but their actions may show it. Know the behavior your partner expresses during the conflict. Some styles are a compromise, not compromise in the harmful act but the ability to let go of issues to resolve the dispute. It takes determination and love for each other to resolve conflict.

"Solutions in Conflict Resolution." When we engage in conflict, our perspectives collide with those of others. This clash of ideas allows us to fine-tune our understanding and consider alternative viewpoints. Conflict is a creative instrument, helping us generate innovative solutions, build trust, form more profound agreements, and seek to communicate with each other. Avoid arguing. Be an active listener with eye contact when communicating with each other. Pascal Molenberg's (2017) Showing empathy is crucial because it helps us understand how others feel so we can respond appropriately to the situation, respect, and negotiate to resolve the conflict in love. The Bible says, "Love triumphs over judgment." Seek godly advice or counsel. Getting an education on anger management or any significant issue in the relationship is good.

Conclusion: Individual difference. People with different mindsets, different family backgrounds, and ideologies could pact partners living together. Conflict provides a platform to express our needs openly. Often, people do not get what they want simply because they do not communicate their desires. And sometimes, when engaging in conflict, partners become more resilient to each other. Conflict is not inherently harmful; how we handle it will impact a relationship. Conflict can lead to meaningful conversations and spur change. Within a group, productive conflict can foster consensus and group cohesiveness.

Work Cited:

Gama, Ana P. M., and Catarina A. Alves. "Conclusions, Contributions, and Recommendations." Accounting, Finance, Sustainability, Governance & Fraud, 2021, https://doi.org/10.1007/978-981-33-4846-2_7.