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Love Your Enemies Without Being A Doormat Series
Contributed by Shaila Touchton on Jun 10, 2025 (message contributor)
Summary: The Bible teaches us to "love our enemies....
The Bible teaches us to "love our enemies" (Matthew 5:44, Luke 6:27-36). However, this doesn't mean allowing them to take advantage of us or harm us without boundaries. In fact, setting boundaries and standing up for ourselves can be a form of love – love for ourselves and others.
Jesus and the Money Changers: Jesus didn't tolerate the money changers in the temple; instead, he overturned their tables and drove them out (Matthew 21:12-13, Mark 11:15-17). He stood up against exploitation and abuse, showing that loving our enemies doesn't mean allowing them to desecrate sacred spaces or take advantage of others.
David and Shimei: When Shimei cursed David, David's men wanted to kill him. However, David restrained them, choosing instead to let God deal with Shimei (2 Samuel 16:5-13). This shows that loving our enemies can mean entrusting them to God's justice rather than taking matters into our own hands.
Paul and the Philippian Jailer: After Paul and Silas were beaten and imprisoned, they sang hymns and prayed. When an earthquake freed them, the jailer was about to kill himself, but Paul stopped him (Acts 16:16-40). Paul showed compassion and kindness, but also stood firm in his rights as a Roman citizen.
Nehemiah and the Critics: Nehemiah faced opposition while rebuilding Jerusalem's walls. Critics like Sanballat and Tobiah tried to intimidate him, but Nehemiah stood firm, saying, "I am carrying on a great project and cannot go down" (Nehemiah 6:3). He set boundaries and prioritized his work while still being open to legitimate concerns.
The Early Church and Persecution: The early Christians faced intense persecution, yet they responded with prayer and kindness. When Peter was imprisoned, the church prayed fervently for him (Acts 12:1-19). They didn't retaliate but instead trusted God to work in their situation.
Joseph and His Brothers: Joseph's brothers sold him into slavery, but when they later came to Egypt seeking food, Joseph provided for them without enabling their manipulative behavior (Genesis 42-45). He set clear boundaries while showing kindness and generosity.
In conclusion, loving our enemies biblically means showing kindness, compassion, and forgiveness while also setting boundaries and standing up for ourselves and others when necessary. By following these examples, we can navigate complex relationships with wisdom and integrity.