It's Not You; It's Me Series

It’s Not You; It’s Me

OKAY – we are in this series called, ‘Such Things Were Written’ our theme verse is…

‘Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us. They give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s promises. – Romans 15:4

AND LISTEN – here’s the deal, since July 19… we have been taught, warned… and given hope and encouragement from.

• The story of Naomi and Ruth

• David and Goliath

• The Life of Jeremiah

• A surprising warrior named Gideon

• Two periods of Israel history (Wilderness/Conquest)

• The life of Solomon

• The time that the nation of evil experienced a breakup, forming 2 separate kingdoms, and

• 4 chapters in the life of David that taught us that…. our God can use anyone, His power can do anything, His timing is anytime, and His grace can be found anywhere.

AND – this morning we are going to unpack a conversation called, “What are you doing here?” A conversation

NOW – this is a conversation about a breakup, about a division, about the time when the Northern part of Israel (10 tribes) and the Southern part of Israel (2 tribes) called it quits and went their separate ways, forming 2 different nations that would pretty remain in a state of conflict and civil war for 200+ years… until both were destroyed and conquered by foreign enemies.

Israel (the north) by Assyria in 722 BC

Judah (the south) by Babylon in 586 BC

HEY – it’s no you; it’s me…

NOW – I am sure that you’ve heard of those 5 words before

MAYBE – you have said them to someone before

MAYBE – someone said them to you

WHEN – a break up happened in your life.

YOU KNOW - there are only a few things worse than a breakup: an allergic reaction to a bee sting, your pet dying and a flat tire on a deserted freeway after midnight with no jack or spare.

Needless to say, breaking up is not a good time, but it also a pretty common thing…

Ever happen to you.

I MEAN – just think about how many songs there are about breaking up…

A list of some top break up songs

1) You've lost that long feeling - Righteous Brothers

2) Cry me a river - Justin Timberlake

3) Ain't no sunshine - Billy Withers

4) I'll never love again - Lady Gaga

5) I will shrive - Gloria Gaynor

6) Behind these Hazel Eyes - Kelly Clarkson

7) You gave love a bad name - Bon Jovi

Let's sing that together

"Shot to the heart and your to blame

you gave love a bad name

I played my part and you played your game

you gave a bad name

you gave lo o o o ove"

YES – breaking up is not only hard, but it can also be hard to do. LIKE – what… do… you… say…

When you know that it is time to end it and walkaway.

IT – can be hard to find the words.

OKAY – if you ever struggled as to what to say at such times, well, here are a few of the most common break up lines.

NOW – to be honest sometimes these lines can be a bit confusing… I MEAN – you hear these words and at times you are left wondering… “What does it mean?” “What are they trying to say?” HEY – if you ever been there, fret no more, because here are all the top breakup lines decoded for you. With both the optimistic and realistic versions.

“I need space.”

Optimist: I just need to take a step back and reexamine our relationship.

Realist: I need to get far, far away from you.

“I think we should see other people.”

Optimist: It didn’t work out; it’s quite unfortunate. I see a potential for us both to find new mates and be happier.

Realist: I’m already seeing other people and think you should catch up.

“I’m not ready for commitment.”

Optimist: You are a great catch but at this point in my life; I’m just not ready for a serious relationship—maybe after a short, ambiguous period of time.

Realist: Imagining a future with you terrifies me.

“You deserve better.”

Optimist: You’re the greatest catch; anyone would be lucky to have you. I don’t feel good enough for you and I can’t live with these feelings of inadequacy.

Realist: I want to let you down gently so you don’t go all crazy

“I think we’re better off as friends.”

Optimist: I wouldn’t want to jeopardize our great friendship with a relationship.

Realist: I am not attracted to you at all. And the thought of a Romantic relationship with you, well, it makes my skin crawl.