Don¨ˆt Forget Who You Are Series

Truly marriage has a way of challenging everything that you believe to be true. We were all raised with different values and beliefs and many times we try to do the same thing that our role model did and we expect the same or somewhat similar results. We bring our beliefs into our marriage and try to use those same beliefs from childhood to express ourselves to our spouses.

For example, ¡°I made this money before I met you. What do you mean joint bank account?¡± Or ¡°Why shouldn¡¯t I listen to my mother she has never been wrong before.¡±

There are many different things that we were raised from childhood to believe. They all lose a great deal of importance when we exchange marriage vows. I am not implying that you have to handle your finances any certain way to be successful or that now because you are married your mother is always wrong. However, our process of consideration has to change in accordance to our new covenant we made with our spouse through God. So anytime we abuse or misuse our marriage privileges we are first abusing and misusing God.

Anytime we break a covenant with our spouses we are first breaking our covenant with God. Remember when God showed you all that you would need to know about your spouse before you were married but you were so in love that you were willing to overlook whatever it was. If you used the Spirit of God to help you overlook the unattractive things while you were choosing your spouse, then you must use the same Spirit of God in the same manner to keep them.

CONCLUSION

In conclusion, we should always be mindful to remember who we are and what God has assigned us to do. I am sure that if every time I sinned God threatened to throw me out then I would question his true love for me. I am also sure that if his heart was not in our relationship then I would lose interest. If God showed more interest toward you than he did me even when I did what he asked then I would probably not want to seve this God with my whole heart.

Once we confess with our mouths we have made a contract with God. Once we confess we have given our seal and we must keep our word to God¡¯s church. We must always remember who we are and what God has done for us when we are dealing with our spouses. We need to let our yes be yes and our no be no. When we give our spouse a word that is not true we are not only lying to our spouses but we are also lying to God. We absolutely must stop lying to God.