Divorce

This is what God thinks about divorce. God hates it! It is an act of violence and anyone who has been thru one can understand what He is talking about. It rips families apart. Divorce will shame your name and strip you of your identity. God makes provision for marriage, but nowhere in the bible does it say that He makes provision for Divorce.

Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. NKJV

In fact He says do not do this because what God has put together let no man take apart. When we are joined together in marriage it’s like putting two strips of tape together and joining them together at the glued sides. Those two pieces of tape become strong and one. Taking them apart would be very difficult. In fact to separate them, would have a tearing apart effect. This my friend, is the same effect that happens with divorce.

I was inspired by God to write about this subject. My purpose of these articles is to help Gods people who might be thinking or going thru a divorce. Don’t do it! My prayer is of hope that you will see the truth and that you would be set free from making bad decisions, hopelessness, bondage of sin, fear, and condemnation. I pray and know that this will minister to those that are thinking about divorced and to those who are divorced. I write these articles out of love for the church and my own experience. I know that not everyone that reads this has had the same type of experience that I have gone thru, and that every situation is different. We cannot group everyone into one situation, and call it the same. But there are some principles that will help us so we can apply them to our lives, and they come from the bible which are God’s instructions.

Who are you talking to!

Ps 1:1 Blessed is the man, who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,

Nor stands in the path of sinners, Nor sits in the seat of the scornful; NKJV

First I would like to say that we live in a generation that gives some really bad advice about marriage and divorce. If you’re going listen to someone’s counsel about marriage you better make sure that it going to be advice that lines up with the word of God. Make sure that the counsel you receive is not from some disgruntled person that has gone thru a divorce and their view of marriage is all distorted to the point that they think marriage is straight from the pit of hell. They themselves would never get married again because it doesn’t work. And you surely should not take the advice of a friend or family member who is not saved. They haven’t a clue when it comes to God’s point of view about marriage. I met a woman that was a marriage counselor. She herself was divorced. She had a boyfriend, they were living together and they were having difficulty with their relationship. He ended up leaving her; she committed suicide as a result of the breakup.

Talking with coworkers who are not saved is not a good idea. The advice you’re going to get is worldly. It may sound like this Just leave the bum, or if you’re not happy it’s better to just get a divorce. You have to do what’s right for you. I’m sure God will understand. This is the type of counseling you really need to stay away from. This will kill your marriage and give you some life changing ideas and bad philosophies. Then you have the sympathetic church friend. He/She is so understanding and her counsel is based on pure emotions and feelings. Marriage is a commitment and is not to be based upon feelings. Stay away from sister or brother sympathetic. Church people that give bad advice better think twice about what you’re doing. You’re going to give an account of what you say before God one day. And Woe! Unto the man or woman that causes someone to stumble as the result of some Mickey Mouse counseling.

Luke 17:2 It would be better for him to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around his neck than for him to cause one of these little ones to sin NIV

It’s easy to give advice to someone and not have to deal with the results from them. They are not concerned on the outcome. They don’t have to live with the decisions you make for the rest of their lives. But you do!! You better think twice about who you ask advice from. Try someone who cares about your soul. One who will ask you if this is the will of God for your life. Not how do you feel about this. One that is not bias about your spouse. Someone who is not afraid to tell you straight from the word of God. Hey! Why not ask your Pastor for some advice.