Breaking Marital And Relationship Barriers Series

BREAKING MARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP BARRIERS

By Rev. Samuel Arimoro

Main Text: Ecclesiastes 4:12

Key Verse: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:12)

Supporting Texts: Genesis 2:24; Ephesians 5:25-33; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7; Proverbs 18:22; Matthew 19:6

INTRODUCTION

Marriage and relationships are meant to be a reflection of God’s love, unity, and partnership. However, many couples and individuals face barriers such as misunderstanding, mistrust, conflict, and external pressures that threaten the stability of their relationships. These barriers can prevent couples from experiencing fulfillment, intimacy, and the divine blessings intended for them.

The Bible provides keys to overcoming these obstacles. Ecclesiastes 4:12 reminds us that a relationship strengthened by God’s presence becomes unbreakable. When God is involved, even seemingly insurmountable barriers, whether emotional, spiritual, or situational can be broken, leading to restoration, intimacy, and joy.

In this message, we will examine the practical ways to break marital and relationship barriers through love, faith, obedience, and divine intervention. Applying these principles will empower couples and individuals to experience stronger, healthier, and God-centered relationships.

1. RECOGNIZING BARRIERS IN MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS

To break barriers, we must first identify them. Many issues in relationships are spiritual, emotional, or behavioral, and ignoring them can lead to disunity and frustration.

a) Communication breakdown (Proverbs 18:13) – Misunderstanding and lack of communication create emotional distance that allows barriers to grow.

b) Unresolved conflicts (Matthew 18:15-17) – Holding on to past grievances causes resentment, anger, and relational stagnation.

c) Spiritual attacks (Ephesians 6:12) – The enemy often targets relationships with discord, mistrust, and separation.

d) Neglecting God in the relationship (Ecclesiastes 4:12) – Failing to make God the center weakens the bond and leaves the relationship vulnerable.

Biblical Example: Abraham and Sarah faced delays, doubt, and the threat of unfulfilled promises, but God’s intervention broke these barriers and established a covenant relationship that became the foundation of nations (Genesis 17:1-22).

2. THE POWER OF LOVE TO BREAK BARRIERS

Love is the foundation of all successful relationships. When couples cultivate godly love, barriers of resentment, bitterness, and selfishness can be removed.

a) Sacrificial love strengthens bonds (Ephesians 5:25-28) – Husbands and wives must emulate Christ’s sacrificial love to nurture trust and intimacy.

b) Forgiveness restores relationships (Colossians 3:13) – Forgiving past hurts dissolves barriers that prevent closeness and emotional healing.

c) Commitment nurtures unity (Matthew 19:6) – Committing to the covenant of marriage ensures both partners remain steadfast despite challenges.

d) Mutual respect fosters growth (1 Peter 3:7) – Honoring each other’s perspectives and value strengthens relational harmony and resilience.

Biblical Example: Ruth and Boaz demonstrated love, respect, and commitment, which broke the barriers of widowhood, poverty, and cultural limitations to bring God’s blessings into their lives (Ruth 2:1-23; 4:13-17).

3. THE ROLE OF PRAYER AND SPIRITUAL INTERVENTION

Many barriers are spiritual in nature, requiring supernatural intervention through prayer, fasting, and seeking God’s guidance.

a) Praying together invites God’s presence (1 Thessalonians 5:17-18) – Couples and individuals should regularly pray to dismantle spiritual barriers.

b) Seeking God’s direction removes confusion (James 1:5) – Divine guidance ensures decisions are aligned with God’s purpose, avoiding future conflicts.

c) Spiritual warfare protects relationships (2 Corinthians 10:4–5) – Identifying and rebuking demonic influences prevents attacks on intimacy and trust.

d) Consistency in devotion deepens relational strength (Psalm 91:1-2) – Continual spiritual discipline provides protection, clarity, and divine favor.

Biblical Example: Hannah’s persistent prayers broke the barriers of barrenness and reproach, resulting in the birth of Samuel, whose life brought blessing to Israel (1 Samuel 1:10-20).

4. PRACTICAL STRATEGIES TO MAINTAIN STRONG RELATIONSHIPS

Breaking barriers is not enough; couples must implement strategies to sustain harmony, love, and God-centered unity.

a) Effective communication (James 1:19) – Listening, understanding, and expressing feelings constructively prevents unnecessary conflicts.

b) Shared vision and purpose (Amos 3:3) – Aligning goals strengthens the partnership and ensures both individuals work towards common objectives.

c) Regular accountability and mentorship (Proverbs 11:14) – Seeking godly counsel provides guidance and helps correct relational missteps early.

d) Cultivating joy and intimacy (Song of Solomon 1:2-4) – Enjoying each other’s company and nurturing affection strengthens relational bonds.

Biblical Example: Aquila and Priscilla consistently worked together in ministry and life, breaking every barrier to advance God’s kingdom while maintaining a strong, united marriage (Acts 18:1-3; Romans 16:3-5).

CONCLUSION

Barriers in marriages and relationships: whether spiritual, emotional, or circumstantial, are not permanent. God has provided the keys to overcome every obstacle, restore unity, and establish joy, honor, and divine protection.

By identifying barriers, embracing love, engaging in prayer, and practicing godly strategies, every believer can break the chains holding their relationships captive. You shall walk in divine unity, and your relationships will reflect God’s glory and purpose.

PRAYER POINTS

1. Father, break every barrier in my marriage and relationships, in Jesus’ name.