Overcoming Shyness And Timidity Series

OVERCOMING SHYNESS AND TIMIDITY

By Rev. Samuel Arimoro

Main Text: 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."

Supporting Texts: Proverbs 28:1; Acts 4:13; Joshua 1:9; Jeremiah 1:6-9; Hebrews 13:6

INTRODUCTION:

Shyness and timidity are common emotional struggles that hinder people from expressing themselves fully, taking opportunities, or walking boldly in their God-given purpose. These traits may originate from fear, low self-esteem, past failures, or rejection. Left unchecked, they can limit potential and silence destiny.

In the spiritual context, timidity is not of God. Scripture makes it clear that the spirit of fear does not come from Him. God desires His children to be bold, courageous, and confident in His grace and power. When shyness dominates our actions, we risk disobedience to divine instructions and miss kingdom assignments.

This study seeks to uncover the roots of shyness and timidity and to equip us with biblical and practical tools to rise above them. With the help of the Holy Spirit, we can be transformed into bold witnesses and vessels of honour for God's glory.

1. UNDERSTAND THAT SHYNESS IS NOT FROM GOD

You must realise that God’s Spirit empowers boldness, not fear.

a) God Gives Boldness, Not Fear.

Fear and timidity are not from God (2 Timothy 1:7).

b) The Righteous Are Called to Be Bold.

Boldness is a sign of divine confidence (Proverbs 28:1).

c) Fear Limits Kingdom Impact.

It prevents obedience and effectiveness (Matthew 25:25).

d) God Commands Courage in Every Assignment.

Courage is essential for divine tasks (Joshua 1:9).

Biblical Example: Timothy had to be reminded to stir up boldness (2 Timothy 1:6-7).

2. IDENTIFY THE ROOTS OF TIMIDITY

Knowing the source helps in addressing the issue effectively.

a) Fear of Rejection or Failure.

Many shy people dread making mistakes or being judged (Isaiah 41:10).

b) Past Trauma or Embarrassment.

Negative experiences may foster timidity (Psalm 34:4-6).

c) Low Self-Esteem and Self-Doubt.

A poor self-image feeds shyness (Numbers 13:33).

d) Lack of Knowledge or Preparation.

Confidence grows with understanding (Proverbs 4:7).

Biblical Example: Moses initially felt unqualified due to insecurity (Exodus 4:10-12).

3. BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE IN GOD’S WORD

The Word of God is the foundation of boldness and assurance.

a) Know Who You Are in Christ.

Your identity is in Him (Ephesians 2:10).

b) Meditate on Scriptures that Speak Boldness.

The Word is a source of strength (Joshua 1:8).

c) Declare God's Promises Over Your Life.

Confessions build inner courage (Romans 10:17).

d) Stand on the Assurance of God's Presence.

He is always with you (Hebrews 13:5-6).

Biblical Example: Jeremiah overcame his fears through God’s assurance (Jeremiah 1:6-9).

4. PRACTISE BOLDNESS WITH SMALL STEPS

Growth in confidence comes through intentional action.

a) Take Faith-Filled Steps Despite Fear.

Courage grows with obedience (Matthew 14:29).

b) Practise Speaking and Engaging Publicly.

Repeated exposure builds comfort (Ecclesiastes 11:4).

c) Surround Yourself with Encouraging Believers.

Fellowship stirs up confidence (Hebrews 10:24-25).

d) Learn from Others Who Have Overcome Shyness.

Their testimony inspires hope (Revelation 12:11).

Biblical Example: Peter, once fearful, became bold after Pentecost (Acts 4:13).

5. DEPEND ON THE HOLY SPIRIT FOR EMPOWERMENT

True boldness flows from the infilling of the Spirit.

a) Ask for the Boldness of the Holy Spirit.

He strengthens the inner man (Ephesians 3:16).

b) Yield to the Spirit Daily in Prayer.

He gives courage and clarity (Romans 8:26).

c) Trust the Spirit to Speak Through You.

He gives words and wisdom (Luke 12:11-12).

d) Engage in Spiritual Exercises that Build Confidence.

Fasting, prayer, and worship strengthen your spirit (Jude 1:20).

Biblical Example: The early Church prayed and received boldness through the Holy Spirit (Acts 4:29-31).

CONCLUSION:

Shyness and timidity may seem like harmless traits, but they can hinder the believer’s full expression of God’s purpose. God has not called us to shrink back but to stand boldly in faith and love. As we draw from His Word, practise boldness, and rely on the Holy Spirit, transformation is possible.

God is looking for sons and daughters who will rise with courage to speak, lead, serve, and shine for His glory. With Him, you can silence the voice of fear and walk in godly confidence.

PRAYER POINTS:

1. Lord, deliver me from every spirit of fear and timidity.

2. Father, fill me with the boldness of the Holy Spirit.

3. I receive the confidence to fulfil my divine assignments.

4. Help me to speak and act boldly wherever You send me.

5. Let Your Word renew my mind and transform my heart.