Make Up Your Mind Series

Make Up Your Mind

(Divorce Series)

Scripture Reference: James 1:8

James 1:8 - A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

INTRODUCTION

First of all I would like to say that when God ordered me to start this series on divorce I ran just like Jonah. I never wanted to teach on divorce because I already know that I will be attacked in that area in my own life as soon as I begin this work. I have been praying harder than ever over my marriage because I knew that I would yield to God and allow Him to have His way on my life and that I would soon be teaching on divorce. I am so thankful that He gave me His word that He would preserve my marriage as I teach on this God-forsaken topic.

Because of the laws that govern our land I am sure that there will be many to disagree with my teaching on this subject.

I am sure that many will also disagree with me because they have entered into a divorce and decided that it was the best answer for the problem.

Furthermore others will disagree with me because I too have been divorced and if I was such a subject matter expert I should have been able to save my own marriage.

Now that we have those three reasons out of the way we can move forward in the full knowledge that I understand where you are coming from when you disagree. However I must be obedient, I fear the wrath of God more than your judgment against me.

MAIN BODY

I am directing this teaching to the men because I do not now neither will I ever understand the reasoning behind many of the decisions that women make. So I can never truly advise a woman on what type of decision to make outside of giving her the word of God.

Anyone that knows me knows that I simply detest the thought of a divorce. I would not hope that my worse enemy would ever have to face the decision on whether or not to enter into a divorce with his wife.

It seems as though Satan leaves a little red button always near you that you can press if the pressure gets too great and you can get a divorce with no repercussions.

This is a lie from the pits of hell.

Satan has even come up with an easy reason to get a divorce and I fell prey to this reason myself, the court system calls it “Irreconcilable differences”.

What in the world is this? I researched the meaning behind this ghostly term and it means that it is impossible for the two people to agree or come to terms.

Where in the holy bible does it say that God can not? (Well it does say that he can not lie) So who can only be behind this reason? (Satan)

Don’t get me wrong, I know that there are some evil, mean and nasty people out there that do some evil, mean and nasty things

I couldn’t imagine being a judge and hearing all of the different cases that come before them and then hear a guy like me say that there should never be a divorce.

I was once a social worker and I saw so many cases of sexual abuse and physical abuse that I could not sleep at night. How are these people of God being tricked into doing such ungodly acts? Don’t they know that they are going to have to face the ultimate judge?

This concept of standing against divorce must seem completely insane. I mean truly you must believe that divorces are sometimes necessary or we would have protest groups in front of court houses the same as we do in front of abortion clinics.

First of all, I am totally convinced after talking to several candidates of divorce that God shows us everything that we need to know about a woman before we get married. Disagree with me if you want but you had a good idea of all of the things that your wife is into now.

However before you got married you promised God that you could work through it. So what happened? Who’s breaking their covenant you or God? I shouldn’t ask that question because if there are any people like me out there then they truly believe that even God can’t fix their marriage from time to time.

I have come to realize after all of my talks with various men of several ethnic groups and different ages that the nucleus for the desire for divorce stems from the same source.

UNSTABLENESS

The best way for me to describe this word to you is to give you the definition of stable. Which is the opposite of this word.