As Tears Go By Series

AS TEARS GO BY (1 SAMUEL 1:1-20)

Kurt Cobain, the founder and leader of the grunge band Nirvana, was the most acclaimed and creative singer of his generation, the artist of his decade (90s), according to Time Magazine. His parents divorced when he was eight, and two of his father's uncles had committed suicide. Marriage and the birth of a daughter were supposed to bring calm, stability and perspective to the brooding singer, but three years after the band had achieved fame and at the height of his popularity, Cobain put a shotgun to his own head at the young age of 27 in 1994.

In a suicide note left behind to his family and for his fans, Cobain revealed: “I haven't felt the excitement for so many years. I feel guilty beyond words about these things...When we are backstage and the lights go out and the manic roar of the crowd begins, it doesn't affect me...The fact is I can't fool you, any of you. It simply isn't fair to you or to me...The worst crime I can think of would be to (trick) people by faking it and pretending as if I were having 100% fun. (I don't have the passion anymore. so remember,) It's better to burn out than to fade away.” (LAT 4/12/94).

A 2003 study suggested that 13 percent of the American work force loses productivity from headaches, back pain, arthritis and other common painful conditions, and as many as 50 million or so pain patients in the nation suffers pain (“Making Pain Control an Issue of Mind Over Matter,” The Dallas Morning News, September 19, 2006).

Pain can be physical, emotional or mental. Chronic emotional and mental suffering is more dangerous than migraine headaches, lower back pain or rheumatoid arthritis. Times magazine (Fall 1997) describes how pain travels technically in the body: “A pain signal is set off by the stimulation of nerve endings. The signal goes to the spinal cord, where it passes instantaneously to a motor nerve (1) connected to a muscle in the leg. This causes a reflex action that does not include the brain. But the signal also goes up the spinal cord to the thalamus, (2) where pain is received.”

The story of Samuel, the last judge of Israel, begins with the heartbreak suffered by his mother, Hannah. Hannah’s suffering was likened to that of Job, Hagar, and Israel in Egypt. Childlessness reduced her to tears. She felt that she was nothing like others, she had less than others and despised by others. Years and years (v 7) of the same disparaging remarks, brutal treatment and mind games from her rival made her tearful, miserable and despondent. In the era of the Judges, the Lord of hosts (v 3) and temple (v 9) are mentioned for the first time in the Bible.

What can one do in such an uneven fight, with such an obnoxious person or in such an inescapable situation? What resources do we have to overcome the feelings of hurt, insignificance and rejection?

Master the Art of Looking Away

1 There was a certain man from Ramathaim, a Zuphite from the hill country of Ephraim, whose name was Elkanah son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephraimite. 2 He had two wives; one was called Hannah and the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none.3 Year after year this man went up from his town to worship and sacrifice to the Lord Almighty at Shiloh, where Hophni and Phinehas, the two sons of Eli, were priests of the Lord. 4 Whenever the day came for Elkanah to sacrifice, he would give portions of the meat to his wife Peninnah and to all her sons and daughters. 5 But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her, and the Lord had closed her womb. 6 And because the Lord had closed her womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. 7 This went on year after year. Whenever Hannah went up to the house of the Lord, her rival provoked her till she wept and would not eat. 8 Elkanah her husband would say to her, “Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don't you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don't I mean more to you than ten sons?” (1 Sam 1:1-8)

A Jewish story in A Treasury of Jewish Folklore tells of how tears were given to us, and why they are valuable to us:

“After Adam and Eve had been banished from the Garden of Eden, God saw that they were penitent and took their fall very much to the heart. And as He is a compassionate Father He said to them gently: “I know that you will meet with a lot of tribulation in the world and that it will embitter your lives. For that reason I gave to you of my heavenly treasure this priceless pearl. Look! (They saw a droplet of water). It is a tear! And when grief overtakes you and your heart aches so that you are not able to endure it, and great anguish grips your soul, then there will fall from your eyes this tiny tear. Your burden will grow lighter then.”