Even In A “Good Divorce,” where parents amicably minimize their conflicts, children inhabit a more difficult emotional landscape than those in intact families, according to a new survey. Divorce restructures children’s childhoods and leaves them traveling between two distinct worlds. It becomes their job, not their parents, to make sense of those two worlds. For example, those who grew up in divorced families are far more likely than those with married parents to say they felt like a different person with each parent, they sometimes felt like outsiders in their own home and they had been alone a lot as a child. Those with married parents, however, are far more likely to say children were at the center of their family and they generally felt emotionally safe. (NY Times 11/5/05)
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