In 1968 I worked with a nurse at Bethesda Naval Hospital who told me one day after I had just lost it with a co-worker. “You know you are only as big as the things you let bother you”
Although I wasn’t in the mood to hear it at that time, it did impact me. However she didn’t respond much better when I reminded her of her wonderful saying after she lost it a few weeks later. I guess timing is important as well.