During the Iraq-Iran war in the 1980s, the Iraqi Air Force was equipped with the MiG-29, one of the most technologically advanced planes of all time. Yet they suffered an incredibly high rate of loss of these planes, even when facing the Irani force that had inferior equipment. The makers of the MiGs went to study the situation, and I once heard that they discovered the following. These planes were equipped with an alarm that warned a pilot whenever a guided missile had locked onto their plane. The alarm was designed to allow the pilot to take evasive measures, which were successful more often than not. But the Iraqi pilots had a different reaction when that alarm went off. They hit the eject button! They saved themselves, but lost their planes unnecessarily.
Are we hitting the eject button when we should be trying to save our marriages? Has it become to easy for us to bail out when we should be trying to fly higher? Why is it that at one time over 90% of our marriages held together, but not so anymore?